My mother and her sister got in a fight a few years ago and haven't spoken to each other since. However, since I still keep in touch with my aunt and her daughter, I was invited to my cousin's wedding last year and my mother was not (she does not keep in touch with my cousin but has nothing against her personally). My mother was also not invited to my other cousin's high school graduation party. So my mom feels sad that she is missing her sister's kids' events and says that she would naturally expect me not to invite my aunt to my wedding this year. I have told her that I still talk to and hang out with my cousin and aunt though, so I want to invite them.
Now my mom says even though she respects my decision, she will not come to my wedding because she fears dirty looks and snide comments and does not want it to create a situation at my wedding. I have total faith that my aunt will not do anything of the sort out of respect for me. I know my mom would be uncomfortable with her sister there, but I really do not want to back down and tell my aunt she is no longer invited (even though she has already suggested that she won't come if that is what it takes to get my mom to come). I just don't understand how my mom can't see that this is "my day" and if I want all of my relatives to be there, they should be there -- they don't have to talk to each other, just ignore each other for a few hours. Am I wrong?
Can anyone talk any sense into my mother? I just know she will regret this forever if she doesn't come, but I will feel awful if I make my aunt not come. Nothing I have said so far has changed her mind, she is very stubborn. I've run out of ways to try to convince her to come.
