I saw below a post where someone introduced themselves and I thought, "Oh, maybe I should do that too."
I'm American and my fiance is Indian. He lives in India. When we marry, I'll move there.
We're both Christian, so I don't have to worry about Hindu traditions. His family is also Christian. He's sort of a mixed bag when it comes to heritage, which is why his name is not Hindi, but he was born in Kolkatta (lives near Delhi now) and his family has been in India for many generations. He looks totally Indian, but he lives in America for seven years as a kid and his native language is English, so he totally speaks without an accent and throws everyone off. It's really funny.
We're saving up so I can go to India. I just got a job last week after 19 1/2 months of unemployment, so after I get my first paycheck I'm applying for a passport. The plan right now is I go to India, meet his family, see the country I'll soon be callilng home, and we get engaged (officially. We've decided we want to get married months ago now, but have decided not to declare it official until he can propose in person. But he knows I joined this site and is happy with it. He even picked out my screenname). Then I come home, we plan out how the wedding(s) will go, and then Ryan comes here. We have an unofficial (nonlegal) ceremony at my church and a reception with my family and friends, then we both fly to India, have the legal ceremony with his family and friends and then live happily ever after. Ideally.
But we're not sure if it's really going to go like that. There's visa issues I don't even really understand, and my mom now suddenly seems to be struggling with our timeline (emotionally).
We also are not all sure we can afford to have an American wedding at all. My father is okay with that, but I admit I'm not really. My wonderful best friend has promised if we don't have a wedding America, she'll fly India to be my MOH. But I'll have literally not one other friend or family member there. If we don't do an American wedding then we'd save the cost of the wedding plus the cost of a roundtrip airfare ticket.
When I move to India, I can't legally work for a year until I get my PIO, so Ryan has to get a job that can support us both (including my American sized student loans) for that year. So he actually left his last job, since it wouldn't work at all in that role, and is job searching right now. He's actually having great success with leads and interviews and he'll probably be employed by Christmas, but that's nerve wracking.
As far as the weddings go I have lots of ideas and plans for the American one... but no idea if it will happen. I know for sure we'll have an Indian one, but have no idea how that's going to work (and Ryan is no help). I've decided it'll have to wait to start being planned until I'm in India and have a ring on my finger so it makes sense to talk to his mother about it. We do know we're doing pre-marital counseling with my church, even if it's on webcam, and that's about the only locked in thing right now!
Including the date. That will all depend on money and visas. But we're hoping for around next summer, so that's what we guessed.
Sorry this is such a novel!
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"I will greatly rejoice in the LORD, My soul shall be joyful in my God; For He has clothed me with the garments of salvation, He has covered me with the robe of righteousness, As a bridegroom decks himself with ornaments, And as a bride adorns herself with her jewels." -Isaiah 61:10 NKJV