The wedding was last night. I still had been uninvited though her mother, her sister, our future brother in law, and many more relatives, told me that I should still go. Since she didn't want me there, I decided not to go. However, after the ceremony I went to stop in for a few minutes to say hello to a few people (it was an orthodox jewish wedding,so after the ceremony the bride and groom have a few minutes alone, so I knew this time was 'safe' to go since I wouldn't bump into her.) The people who told me to go were excited I was there and thought the issue was resolved, but I told them I was just coming to wish them congratulations and then I was leaving. It was really hard for me to leave but thats what she wanted.
Thanks to those that left comments on the other post!