I know this is kind of opposite of the other "Formality" thread, but I need opinions!
We are having a New Year's Eve wedding at the Waterview, which in itself is a pretty formal occasion (New Yrs) at a pretty formal venue. My FI wants to put "black tie optional" somewhere on the invitations, but I'm just not sure I want to dictate the dress code for the wedding.
There are pros and cons, definitely... I do think the nature of the night-- it being winter and NYE-- will have our guests more dressed up than not, anyway. I do NOT want anyone to feel obligated to rent a tuxedo, or think "who do they think they are" having a black tie wedding.
On the other hand, stating "black tie optional" might tell women, for example, they are free to wear long dresses, and men can wear tuxedos if they have them, or dark suits. A couple of my girlfriends have said they would love an excuse to wear long dresses/gowns they have that they wouldn't otherwise wear again.
What are your thoughts? Think Black Tie Optional is ok for a New Yrs. Eve wedding? Do you think it's an imposition on guests to suggest a dress code?
Thanks!!!
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