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SERIOUS POST: This girl needs your help

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CN:  OP and FI had a "fight."  He's not talking to her, and she's devastated.  Come to find out that the fight was alcohol induced, he was arrested, and blames her.  Someone else needs to tell her to GTFO now, because I don't know that she'll listen to just me.

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Re: SERIOUS POST: This girl needs your help

  • Thank you ;)
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  • edited December 2010
    Wow. She definitely needs to do something.

    Unfortunately, many people don't get out of those types of relationships because people tell them they should. They do it when they're good and ready which can often be after a long time.

    EDITED: wording.
  • That chick who posted "you set him up for that" really, really pisses me off.  The OP is already blaming herself (and it's totally NOT her fault).  I can't believe someone actually told her that.
    panther
  • I know, LTZ.  Usually, the more people that are telling someone to leave just makes them that much more resolved to stay :/
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  • In Response to Re: SERIOUS POST: This girl needs your help:
    That chick who posted "you set him up for that" really, really pisses me off.  The OP is already blaming herself (and it's totally NOT her fault).  I can't believe someone actually told her that.
    Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin
    Yeah, rage.
  • AATB - I just saw that.  It pisses me off, too.  Maybe (maybe?) she meant it in a situation where the girl called the cops just to prove a point to the guy, but not actually mean to get him arrested (I've seen it more than a few times), but, without knowing that info for sure, she certainly shouldn't be putting that out there.
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  • Yeah it really didn't sit well with me that she said that.  I guess it didn't occur to me that she could have called the cops as an "I mean business" type thing but even still - this entire situation makes my heart break for this poor girl and I thought it was entirely innappropriate to tell her that the whole thing was her fault.


    panther
  • Who was it that posted something similar a while ago?  Insinuating that it was the victim's fault for being raped?  Oh yeah... the chick with the foot tat picture - Cat2man or something.  I think that was on WP, though.  Glad she skedaddled.
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  • I will eat any poster alive that blames a victim - especially victims of rape or domestic violence.
    panther
  • In Response to Re: SERIOUS POST: This girl needs your help:
    That chick who posted "you set him up for that" really, really pisses me off.  The OP is already blaming herself (and it's totally NOT her fault).  I can't believe someone actually told her that.
    Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin
    This is making me so, so angry.
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  • In Response to Re: SERIOUS POST: This girl needs your help:
    Who was it that posted something similar a while ago?  Insinuating that it was the victim's fault for being raped?  Oh yeah... the chick with the foot tat picture - Cat2man or something.  I think that was on WP, though.  Glad she skedaddled.
    Posted by tidetravel
    This made me sick to my stomach. I remember that too. Man, what a fucking bitch.
  • In Response to Re: SERIOUS POST: This girl needs your help:
    That chick who posted "you set him up for that" really, really pisses me off.  The OP is already blaming herself (and it's totally NOT her fault).  I can't believe someone actually told her that.
    Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin

    I am a few hours late to this but I went over and ditto'd a few posts anyway and I could not believe this one! Then again, if that poster really believes the OP 'set him up' for that, maybe the OP is not the only one in danger of getting her head bashed into a wall-that is the thinking of a victim.
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