Are you ok with a stripper??

corrinfire · February 2012

At yours or your FI's bachelorette/bachelor party??

AdeleDazeem · February 2012

Yeah. I'm kinda whatever about strip clubs and strippers.

mellimel19 · February 2012

Yeah, it doesn't really concern me. In fact I'm pretty sure there will be a strip club involved for FI's bachelor party.

egeurts · February 2012

Yup. Doesn't bother me in the slightest.

littleluckypenny · February 2012

Doesn't bother me. I trust my FI.

achiduck · February 2012

I don't want one at my bachelorette but I don't care if FI has one at his. I don't think it's something he'd seek out, but his BM is a bit wild. I trust my FI though, he apologizes if he even dreams about someone else.

Queen Jane · February 2012

Nope, it's not something I personally find acceptable. There were no strip clubs for H's Bach and I didn't have a bachelorette. I don't judge women who are ok with it, that's their business. It's a personal choice and is different for everyone.

classykat22 · February 2012

I was actually ok with this idea for FI even though in any other sitation, I am not. We had a combined bach party and the idea of going to a club kept coming up by my MOH's BF. FI was insistant that he did NOT want that to be part of any of the weekend activities...well, the guy decided to take us (we were all in a limo together) to one anyway. FI was so angry and was going to say something but I asked him just to try and go with it to keep peace for the evening. We ended up only staying for about 10 minutes because the club had a $500 bottle fee that we refused to pay. LOL

Avion22 · February 2012

I'm not into strippers, and my fiance isn't either. I don't think either of us are going to have bachelor/bachelorette parties, so the point is probably moot. But if his friends did want to take him to a strip club, I would find it funny more than anything else. Now if his friends hired him a prostitute for the evening I would be upset....but strippers are not prostitutes, and stripping (and watching strippers perform) is copmletely legal.

Ali092011 · February 2012

I don't really feel strongly one way or the other. FI has never expressed any interest in going, so the topic hasn't come up yet. I've never had any boyfriends that were interested, either.

I think as long as there's trust in the relationship, it should be fine, but both sides have to be okay with it.

As far as male strippers, I like looking at hot guys as much as the next person, but watching them strip in time to silly music isn't really my thing.

acaponi87 · February 2012

Since a lot of FI's friends are getting married this summer (4) and are from all over the country they are doing a huge combined bach. trip. I'm sure there will be strip clubs involved. It doesn't bother me. They went to one last year and they all got lap dances and FI cried he felt so bad. I think some of has to do with the fact that it is FI and I trust him a lot, because I don't think I would have been okay with it in some of my past relationships..if that makes sense.

RamonaFlowers · February 2012

We didn't have bach parties at all, but if we had, neither of us wanted strippers anyway.

In general, naked people kind of skeeze me out (Don't know why, they just do), so it's just something I have no desire to do.

As for DH, he views paying strippers as "paying for blue balls", and he refuses to do that, lol. Most of his friends aren't really into strippers, either, so I've never really had to think about whether or not it would bother me if he wanted to go.

jnl1225 · February 2012

I'm okay with them. However, FI said he doesn't want any part of it. Though that could be because we worked at one (him being a bouncer and me being a manager)

sonya+adam · February 2012

I don't know if I would be okay with it or not. This came up in conversation a few days ago, actually. IMO, strippers and strip clubs just gross me out. He told me a story about him going to a strip club and spending a bunch of money on lap dances and sodas when he was 18 and I was just so grossed out. I think it's such a waste of money. I don't think I'd want FI to have one at his bach party. It's not that I don't trust him, I just think it's a little disrespectful for him to look at another woman, and it's disrespectful for his groomsmen to try and make him look at another woman. Idk, that's just me, though.

LizziebeeUT · February 2012

I don't like it and I'm not comfortable with it, but its not something I feel so strongly about that I am going to "forbid" it.

FI and his best man know its not something I like, but they are grown men and will make their own decision. I hope they respect my feelings enough not to go, but if its something that important to them, I'm not going to let it effect our relationship.

melntaitt · February 2012

FI and I aren't into strippers; we prefer not to have any at our pre-wedding parties.

deathandtaxes · February 2012

I'm not engaged yet, but just going to chime in for the hell of it. My boyfriend probably wouldn't want a stripper at his bachleor party, but I'm sure he'd have some friends who would suggest it or encourage it. Honestly, I think that would be a lot of fun for them. Let him go out with the boys and have an awesome, crazy night. You only get married once (well, ideally) so I think he should live it up and have fun.

GeauxTigers17 · February 2012

I'm not. Neither is H, though. I'm with Queen Jane on this one - it's just not something either of us would consider acceptable.

JadziaDax · February 2012

I don't think it's a big deal.

BunnyChii · February 2012

No, not at all. FI and I are both pretty much against strip clubs. I trust him 100%, but that doesn't mean it's okay for some other half-dressed woman to grind on him.

But yeah, it's personal preference.

RebeccaB88 · February 2012

No, I'm not okay with it, but neither is FI, so no problem there. Plus, none of his groomsmen's wives would be okay with them going. So, they're playing poker and drinking beer instead.

[Deleted User] · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_ok-stripper?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:adf0e4f6-b624-41cc-bd41-69d8b4319c74Post:238f369e-2c83-4e00-a0b7-04ce6a217276">Re: Are you ok with a stripper??</a>:
[QUOTE]Doesn't bother me. I trust my FI.
Posted by littleluckypenny[/QUOTE]

This is ridiculous. I cant trust my H 100%, but still not want him around strippers. You're kind of a moron if you think that's the only reason someone would be opposed to strippers.

What's weird is that I couldn't care less about him looking at porn, but strippers would bother me.

pokey730 · February 2012

Doesn't bother me in the least. I used to bartend at a strip club, and I was friends with a few of the strippers. They aren't interested in the men, they're interested in their wallets.

Having said that, FI wouldn't go to a strip club if I begged him, so it doesn't matter. I'm not especially interested in having strippers at my bachelorette party, we're probably going to go off and do something with our guys/girls, and meet up at a bar later on that night.

Also, I trust my FI. Yes, I think if it bothers you THAT MUCH, you have some trust issues. You don't have to like strippers, you can think they're trash or whatever, but you're slightly deluded if you think your FH isn't ever going to look at another woman, and like what he sees.

meagid · February 2012

I don't think FI has been to a strip club since he was 18. And besides, they have to make sure that the bachelor party is something that a minor can attend as one of his groomsmen is underage. So I don't think there will be a strip club involved. However, if there were I would be ok with it. And he would be ok if my girlfriends took me to a ladies night.

Simply Fated · February 2012

"What's weird is that I couldn't care less about him looking at porn, but strippers would bother me." That's why strippers don't bother me. It's just live porn.

[Deleted User] · February 2012

I think my main issue with it is the money. I wouldn't want H wasting his money on looking at tits when he could see them for free at home (either mine or on the computer). We have better things to spend our money on.

[Deleted User] · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_ok-stripper?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:adf0e4f6-b624-41cc-bd41-69d8b4319c74Post:4ea88052-e358-4299-9004-808bc5a6806e">Re: Are you ok with a stripper??</a>:
[QUOTE]Doesn't bother me in the least. I used to bartend at a strip club, and I was friends with a few of the strippers. They aren't interested in the men, they're interested in their wallets. Having said that, FI wouldn't go to a strip club if I begged him, so it doesn't matter. I'm not especially interested in having strippers at my bachelorette party, we're probably going to go off and do something with our guys/girls, and meet up at a bar later on that night. Also, I trust my FI. Yes, I think if it bothers you THAT MUCH, you have some trust issues. You don't have to like strippers, you can think they're trash or whatever, but you're slightly deluded if you think your FH isn't ever going to look at another woman, and like what he sees.
Posted by pokey730[/QUOTE]

Who are you talking to?

pokey730 · February 2012

No one specifically, just adding my two cents.

[Deleted User] · February 2012

Ah okay. Gotcha.

emarston1 · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_ok-stripper?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:adf0e4f6-b624-41cc-bd41-69d8b4319c74Post:4ea88052-e358-4299-9004-808bc5a6806e">Re: Are you ok with a stripper??</a>:
[QUOTE]Doesn't bother me in the least. I used to bartend at a strip club, and I was friends with a few of the strippers. They aren't interested in the men, they're interested in their wallets. Having said that, FI wouldn't go to a strip club if I begged him, so it doesn't matter. I'm not especially interested in having strippers at my bachelorette party, we're probably going to go off and do something with our guys/girls, and meet up at a bar later on that night. <strong>Also, I trust my FI. Yes, I think if it bothers you THAT MUCH, you have some trust issues.</strong> You don't have to like strippers, you can think they're trash or whatever, but you're slightly deluded if you think your FH isn't ever going to look at another woman, and like what he sees.
Posted by pokey730[/QUOTE]
I could not disagree more and think that this is a very judgemental statement. I trust my husband completely that doesn't mean I want him watching another girl stripping/giving him a lapdance. If anyone is going to be doing that for him, I want it to be me.

Also, there is a huge difference between my husband noticing another woman is attractive and having one grinding on him while naked. HUGE difference.

I have nothing against strip clubs/strippers, I just prefer them not to be included in our relationship. It works out well because DH thinks they are a waste of money and has zero interest in going.

If it works for your relationship to include strippers/strip clubs and both people are in agreement, great! But I don't judge people for not wanting it.

coopsbaby · February 2012

I already know that there will be stip clubs involved with fi's bach party. He okayed it with me, and I told him as long as you're not sending a bunch of money, look at as many naked women as you want. I know he appreciates the female form, I know he likes porn, it doesn't bother me and I trust him and all that.

But I don't judge those that aren't okay with it. I'm not okay with a lot of other things that most of society thinks are perfectly acceptable. We're all different with what we're comfy with. As long as both people in the relationship are on the same page, it's all good!

And, for the record, he's okay if I go to a strip club as well, but I think the male strippers are usually pretty skanky and all oiled up, not my thing at all.

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