Hello all,
So a little back history... FI and I have been dating for over 3 years, engaged since March. I have two girls (5/6) and he has a daughter (5). He moved in with my girls and I after the proposal, and obviously we spend alot of time together, and he with my kids. Still, I can count on one hand the number of times I have met his daughter. His ex requires that she or her mother be present at all visits with him (keep in mind, this is not court ordered, but was made the staus quo for them back when she was an infant). He rarely gets to see her, as it all depends on when his ex has time to fit him in.
Yesterday was father's day, and he had to call his own daughter. I'm so frustrated over this for a few reasons... 1) I love my Dad to pieces, and to me there is nothing like a dad and his daughter. I can't imagine how one can justify keeping a child from their father. (My ex is a serious mess, and he still gets more time with our girls than FI gets with his.) My 2nd issue.... I know how amazing my FI is. He is the best thing that could have happened to my girls and I. and 3) My girls are itching to know their future step-sister. We are a very happy, healthy family, but somehow FI's ex thinks it unreasonable to allow FI visits alone.
Anyone dealt with this before? I know I can't say anything. I have encouraged him to out-right ask for a visitation schedule, but he's afraid that if he pushes too far, he'll lose what contact she does allow. Also, I don't think that FI's ex is some awful woman. As far as I can tell, she's a nice girl who does very well for herself and her daughter. I just don't understand.