My fiance and I have decided to have an intimate destination wedding with about 24 guests (if every one is there), and plan on having a celebration with those that were/are not included (hate to say it.....invited because of budget and traveling) on our first year anniversary (which adds up to about 250 guests for a home reception). Should we or can we send out "We have decided to have an intimate wedding in Florida and upon our return we would love to celebrate with you on our first year anniversary" letter/announcement before the wedding? Or should we do something after the wedding? We are being asked if they are coming to the wedding in Florida. Just a little sick of being asked and dont want to hurt their feelings. Would like them to know where we stand with who will be there and who will not.