Hey lovelies,
So, we are getting married this coming June. He's an officer in the army, and has not been deployed yet. The unit he was assigned to and just come back when he got out of officer training, so it will be a while before he leaves. We'll be married about a year when he's deployed... give or take since the army likes to make up its own timelines as you all know. (-:
Sometimes I'm nervous because... well, mine months is a very long time! Sometiems I'm so scared that he'll come back a different person than the one I married and love. I'm afraid we won't be connected any more, that he won't love me, that he won't be sensitive or nice, that he'll yell at me, that he'll have PTSD, that I'll spend the rest of my life with someone I wouldn't have married if he was like that in the first place. You know? It sounds horrible to say that out loud but I'm hoping this is a safe place to speak what's in my darkest fears!
I'm not from a military background, so I just don't necessarily know what it's like. Waiting until after he comes back just so I can see what he's like seems both silly and impractical. We won't live with each other until we get married, so I'd be waiting two years to be with him just to see if he changes... that's silly. Anyway, I'm hoping that someone of you who have been married through deployments can help me out.
Just tell me that he came back and you loved each other just as much and he wasn't a total jerk or anything. And if you want you could tell me that what I feel is normal and I'm not a totally irrational crazypants. (-:
I'm not second guessing anything and I have so much faith in him and his character, it's just a little anxiety I'd like to put to rest.