I have a bit of a dilemma. Both of my brothers had very large wedding parties and I always kind of imagined having a fairly small wedding party, maybe even just a MOH and Best man. As I have been thinking about this more though, I am not as sure. My 15-year-old boy cousin has lived with my family for the past 3 years and became like a brother to me (I actually feel closer to him than my actual brothers). Both of my brothers’ wives asked me to be a BM so I feel like I should ask them (I think it would also do a lot of good for my relationship with one of my sister-in-laws who has not been as involved with our family). If I ask them, I think it would be good to ask my fiancé to ask my brothers as well.
If I ask him to do that, I feel like I should ask some of his female friends. He does not have any sisters but there are three girls who he was friends with in college who he calls his sisters. I have never met them and they live in Ohio. We hope to make our lives in Washington so I probably will never get to know them. He was an usher in one of the “sister’s” weddings but nothing else. I have a friend from elementary/middle/high school who I was best friends with as well as my roommate for the past 2 years who I will not be asking because I want the smaller wedding party.
My fiancé has a brother and sister-in-law but until we got engaged, they hadn’t talked in years and his brother had major issues with him so my fiancé is ok with not having him (he also lives in OH). 4 of his cousins live in the area and I know them very well and would be happy to have them in the wedding party (more so than the “sisters”).
I know this is my wedding but it is also my fiancé’s wedding and I want to keep him in mind. I also don’t want to regret not asking someone. What should I do?