My sister told me that paying for the flower girl's dress, shoes, and accessories is the bride's responsibility. As well as contributing to/buying the bridesmaids' dresses. She also mentioned that she paid for her bridesmaids' dresses. (Not really. She forgot that my mom paid for them! lol)
I don't plan to pay for these items but I am trying not to be obnoxious either. I'll give them options to choose from (DB separates... about $145) and whatever shoes/accessories they already own. The FG dress I have in mind is about $40. I don't "require" special shoes or accessories. Easter shoes are fine with me.
What is proper etiquette? (I'm pretty sure I'm right.) What did you pay for? If you paid/assisted, was it because it was in your budget? Because what you were asking for was very specific or very expensive? You felt obligated? As a gift?