we are on a very tight budget...lots of friends and family have helped us make this wedding happen....we could not afford to do a reception....so we had decided that we would just have cake and punch at our wedding ceremony it starts at three in the afternoon so we figured this would be ok...THEN after the wedding we were going out to eat...we cant afford to pay for anyone but ourselves so we figured we would call it an after party...and who ever wanted to come could...the resturant offered us the top floor with a dance floor and a DJ and a bar very generous we are very blessed...but my problem is now that they have offered all of this to us my groom wants to call that our reception and have our wedding cake there instead of at the ceremony i feel like this is rude because we are not paying for any of our guests to eat and some may not be able to afford it thats why we made it optional in the first place.So if thats the case than anyone that cannot afford it doesnt get to come to our reception and have wedding cake....idk am i wrong? should it still be called an after party and should we still have cake at the ceremony....I just dont want to be rude to our guests....me and my groom just got into a big argument about it....