so I may just be CRAZY but it seems that any time you mention anything about bridesmaids and MOH's helpig with anything - everyone jumps all over you on any other board....
in my circle it is the norm for any BM / MOH to help out - even if it is sitting around drinking and assembling things while hanging out - not by any means instructing them that they must help - but normally it works out that they want to and you kind of give them something to do to help - that you actually need to have done ---
am i the only one who sees it this way? everything i see on the other boards when talking about people helping out is they dont have to , all they have to do is show up kind of thing- which i understand - but generally that is not all they do...