Hello! First post here (I think).
So ok, here is my situation, Half Venting/Half "what would you do." (Sorry it's long).
Background:
My bf and I have been together for 5.5 yrs. Our e-ring is being custom-made in Asia (where his family lives)...we've been deciding on design, etc, since....June. (It's October). We finally have the final design. Since you can't exactly mail the ring for me to try on, they are going to have a "prototype" for me to try on over Xmas (when we're flying to see his family). The prototype won't have the diamond in it (which we also already have). Assuming the prototype fits over Xmas, they are going to make the "real" ring and then we will get it when we see his fam for Chinese New Year (February 2011). THEN, (I assume?? lol) he will officially ask me
then we'll be "officially" engaged.
Sounds good except....it's just eating away at me inside b/c we haven't told anyone! I really want to bust out w/the good news, but we don't Actually have the ring and thus he hasn't "officially" asked, so you could argue that we dont "actually" have good news.
It kind of makes me sad when I hear other people getting engaged, but I haven't told anyone argh! Not like I'm trying to steal the limelight at ALL, I just want to be "allowed" to feel happy/excited about it for myself as well as for them!
Other info: We know we want the wedding to be in Spring 2012 (prob March) and know the location, have talked about some things (wedding party - he already asked his best man lol), though certainly haven't "planned" the whole thing yet or booked anything. So we are on the same page in terms of, we know we want to get married and (roughly) when.
So....I dunno, would you do anything in my situation? Just shut your trap and wait until February, it's soon enough, quit whining? Or maybe have a conversation with your bf, "hey, can we just tell ppl we're engaged b/c all the secrecy is making me sad."
Is it totally anti-climactic if we "announce" to people now, without a ring...then be like "we got the ring!" in February and people will be like "ok whatever, you already announced your engagement without a ring...." You know?
I think I'm extra-mopey b/c my birthday is next week and I just really want to tell people about this, but I don't know if I'll regret it from telling "too soon" and if I should just, to use a phrase, STFU and wait until it's "official."
Any thoughts? Thanks for listening to me vent ladies