I want to order personalized napkins for my wedding but I am unsure which of our names should be listed first. Is it the male name first, or is it alphabetical, or is it whichever way it sounds best? Also should it be proper names or if it is okay to use nicknames? My name is Barbara, Barbie is preferred, and his name is Robert. I call him Rob but his family refers to him as Robert.--Thanks in advance for your help.