hi all. i'm new to the listserve so please bear with me. here goes: i've made my shortlist of possible bridesmaids and, with the exception of one, they all live out of town. in fact, they all live in nice, sunny climes where they've probably never seen more than a foot of snow at once. here's the problem: we're having a january wedding in a midwestern state that gets its fair share of snow. it's a small wedding, mostly family, and i'd love for them to be there. but... asking them to brave temps below zero seems like an unreasonable request. plus, we're planning on having a big reception in the summer with a lot of friends. while i'd love these lifelong friends to stand up with me i'm torn... they'd likely have a better time at the summer reception, and get to reunite with friends they haven't seen for awhile since we're all scattered. but i'd really miss them on the big day. i definitely wouldn't expect them to come to both. thoughts?