My FMIL called us last night really upset because with her recent heart problems (she had 2 heart attacks earlier this month), she doesn't think she can fly out to be at our wedding (she lives in CA). She has cardiac arrhythimia (problems with the heart beat) and she is afraid something will happen to her if she were to fly (cabin pressure and such). FI is very upset because of everyone invited the wedding, he wanted her there the most. He is upset she won't be in any pictures and won't be there to hear the ceremony or to dance with him with the Mother/Son dance. I told her I understand, and that we can't be selfish. I would rather her live a lot longer so she can enjoy possible grandchildren down the road, and not risk it by coming out for our wedding. We are looking into a train/ bus/ or just driving out, but they can be very long and very expensive, especially since she is living on social security and disability. If all else fails, I'll just have mine or FI's cell phone on during the ceremony so she can hear everything.