Last July 3, MOH's bro eloped and now the couple has recently decided they want to have a wedding ceremony with the family on their anniversary. Problem is, my wedding is the next day and 8 hours away. FI and I have had this date since last May and MOH agreed to be MOH shortly after that. Her whole family knows me and knows she is in my wedding. Our wedding date and BP were decided way before they even got married! Obviously, her family is more important than my wedding and I want her to see her bro get married (she and fam were pretty devastated last summer at the eloping), but I also don't want her to feel obligated to drive 8 hours the night before my wedding...it's not safe, and she will be exhausted the next day anyways. Should I tell her she doesn't have to worry about being there if she can't? Maybe keep her as official MOH but make someone else in charge of her responsibilities, this way if she makes it or not, we're covered? It's going to be hard if she can't be there but I'll be fine. What would you do?