February 2010 Weddings
What to do about Maid of Honor?
I'm really torn about an issue I am having about my MOH. She and I have been thru a lot together over the years so it was no question when I got engaged that she would be the one. She knew it too. Well, I got engaged a month ago and am getting married in 4 months. Things are moving really fast. Here is my issue. Since I have told her and asked her to stand up, I have had 1 conversation with her. We originally were doing Vegas and in March. Since then we have decided to do the full blown wedding in our town (she lives 8 hours away) and the date has been moved 3 times due to family conflicts. I have called and called and texted trying to make sure the dates and location could work for her. Maybe 2 or 3 days later I'll get a text message from her but nothing of substance. If I call back, she is not around. I've even written her asking if everything is ok and if this is a bad time in her life that I would understand if she didn't want the honor but, hoped she will still come. She said no no, she wants it. So after that little conflict..... this happens..So, one night she texts me and asks alot of questions but, says she cant call. Another time she asked me a wedding question but, said she was out to lunch with "peeps" and couldnt talk. Another time she was in line for a concert. Another time she texts to tell me two girlfriends of ours that she is out with say hi. Another time she was mowing grass. Then her and her man get into a fight and I get HUGE text messages from her for like 3 hours during a family event. But it was all abou ther and her man. Last night we schedule to talk on the phone at 2pm today. Well 2, 230, 3, 330 and no call. At 430 she says she is still at work thru text. Now its 10 pm and I know she went in at 8 am and am sure she is off. I know she has had a tough year and my fiance' says to give her the benefit of the doubt but, I need help just chatting about colors, times, food just to giggle, vent and be friends with and she is not around. She doesnt even know anything about the wedding other than we decided not to do Vegas. I have another girlfriend who isnt even in the wedding that calls me everyday asking me if I need help, giving me ideas and offering to fly in and help as much as I want. She's a great friend but, not as tight as my other. I don't know what to do..Anyone have a thought they care to share? I don't want to lose my friend or lose her coming to the wedding.ThanksSalina