So I'm really thinking about not having a wedding. Still getting married! Just no wedding. Some of the recent things that have happend have put into perspective the fact that its really going to be just me and FI in this thang. We are the most important 2 people in our lives, and while there is going to be a support network, there really isn't going to be anybody but us and God in our marriage. That said, all the energy, effort, planning, and especially the $ I have been putting into this wedding so OTHER PEOPLE can enjoy themselves just seems out of focus to me (I know I would enjoy myself and it would be worth it - maybe I'm being short-sighted right now).So now we are thinking about just going to the JP or doing something at our parents house and maybe just having a party or have a brunch with our closest famiy/friends or something. My head is all over the place. I am going to try not to think about it too much though.We already have a deposit on the place $300 and the caterer $250 and his mom has bought the dress/veil/under garments $600. So we would be out of over $1000 but I could repurpose or sell the dress and my dad wouldn't ask for the caterer money back. That's nothing compared to how much we were going to spend though. And my dad said he would spend the $ on our honeymoon if we decided to go against the big wedding. (Hello Bali or Brazil!!!)I'm just trying to make sure I wouldn't regret it. I figure in 10 years I can do a fabulous vow renewal at our home or something. Like I said my head is all over the place right now.... this is going to be a long day. Thanks for listening :-)