Not Engaged Yet"but you're SO FUNNY, button! you're so funny i kind of want to crawl into your skin and wear it as my own. " - NarwhalYou, my dear, are the Queen of the Beebees. Here's a tiara - Oceana
Rant?/help me (long...duh)
So I'm pretty much writing this as a practice conversation to organize my thoughts before I go crazy. I know that communication in a relationship is important, I'm just trying to figure out how to express myself without coming off like a brat or a biitch. Also, you should know by now that I am completely incapable of keeping it short so, as always, it's long and rambling; if you take issue with that just don't read it. BF and I are moving this weekend, the place is a lot bigger than were we are now so we need more stuff mostly to have a functional kitchen stuff, storage, etc. We were saving up to move but this happened so fast (at least 6 months earlier) that we didn't have as much money set aside as we would have liked. So I had to borrow some money from my father just to get us going. I had ever intention of paying him back but he told me to drop that idea and took it further by sending my step mom over to take me shopping where she bought us more things. My mother has also chipped in with helping us by letting me store the newly purchased items in her home, helping me measure the new place so we could get rugs, and refinishing old furniture that she had stored in her basement for us to use. If you had to weigh it out you could say that what she has contributed in manual labor eclipses the generous financial support from my father. Either way this basically wouldn't have been possible without their help and we would have missed a huge opportunity. Also, along with some of our friends, both my parents, my step mother and my brother (who is coming up from DC) will be on hand this weekend to assist with the moving and unpacking. This is a really new situation for me because I've never had to ask for anything before. I was always stubbornly independent and too proud to accept any form of help from others, especially loved ones. The night we realized we didn't have enough money saved up yet to pull off this move I broke down hysterically for ten minutes before I was able to ask my father for a loan. (He yelled at me for being so silly and said he was surprised it took me this long to ask him for money, my brother had been doing it for years)So even though everyone keeps telling me it's not problem and they're happy to help and I would do the same thing if I had kids I still do feel a little bit awkward about it. On the other hand BF's family, who are more local and we see regularly and get along with, hasn't offered help whatsoever. This isn't about money, I think I would die from embarrassment if we took anymore money from others. I just think it's quite odd that no one has offered to help. They know we're moving, they know we have a lot of stuff, they know we we've been looking for people to help with the actual move and they haven't said anything.That's not actually what's bothering me though because I was surprised after all my parents had done to find out that they were planning on being there Saturday to lend a hand. (my mother actually took friday off from work to help us finish painting) What bothers me is that none of this seems to bother BF. Maybe it's a very protective part of me feeling like my family is being taken advantage of or that I'm not used to the idea of family not being there when you need them. Either way I find myself feeling uncomfortable and off about the whole situation. I just am unsure of how to address it, if it's even appropriate to address it with BF. Please feel free to tell me if all this packing has fried my brain and made me unreasonably paranoid or whatever.