In a nutshell: my ex has never paid his child support, moves from house to house usally an average of once a year, hasn't been able to hold a job in several years, has had his car re-po'd, etc. (Yeah...shocker I'm not still with him, huh) Several years ago, when my oldest was 12...ex started manipulating him and training him to act out and keep getting in trouble so I would be more receptive to letting him go live with his dad. (I wasn't aware of the manipulation until after my son moved out.) Anyways...it has been horrible for my son...he loves his dad and doesn't want to hurt him by moving back home, but my son since living with his dad now has a juvenile record and is still on probation until end of December. So last night, my daughter, now 12, turning 13 in December, sits me down and says her dad has started calling her and talking to her about moving to TN with them as well. He's telling her how our house is just "full of sickness" (we had the flu go around for a week and a half ???) and she would be so much better off with him and would have so many more opportunities, etc. We had a good heart to heart, and I very calmly and rationally explained why I felt it was in her best interest to stay living with me. She loves her dad and misses him terribly since he moved to TN. (Now they only see him 1/2 the summer and every few holidays...and most of those he forfeits saying he can't afford to get them.) I will not willingly let her go down there to that situation...which means if he really wants to, he'll have to fight it in court here in OH. Do any of you have any experience with this? My mistake with my son was consenting to the original move...trying to get him back through the courts after all this stuff went down with the juvy record proved unsuccessful. If I don't agree to let her go, doesn't he have to try and prove me an unfit mother to take custody of her? I'm planning on just letting this go for now...I don't want to make it a big deal for my daughter. She has already told me that she doesn't want to choose between parents...and I explained she doesn't have to. The courts have already ordered she stay with me for a reason. There's no reason to change that if she isn't comfortable with it. I just don't know if there's any more I should be doing...or just wait to see if anything comes of this. Any help or advice you guys have would be most appreciated. Thanks much!