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Wedding Vow Renewal Ceremony

My name is Khloé and I'm new here.

My husband and I have been married for almost 3 amazing years and have a beautiful 2 year old son together. We ran away together and eloped, and got married by the JP so we never got to have an *actual* wedding and reception with all the photos and memories to remember our special day by. Because of that -and also because we want to renew our vows and recommit our marriage to ourselves and to God-, we're planning a vow renewal for our 5th year. We want to go all out; big dress, tux w/ a rockstar twist to compliment my hubby's style, bridesmaids, first dance, tiered cake, etc. Both of us are way tooo excited about it and have already started planning!

I was wondering for those who have renewed their vows, did you walk down the aisle together, or did you walk down the aisle to your husband after the wedding party has entered? I want to do things like we would have done them the first time, the "traditional" way. Just wondering what you have all done. :)

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  • Well you DID have an "actual" wedding--that was when you and your husband legally got married. What else would you call it?

    I typically think vow renewals should only be either on milestone anniversaries (like 25 years or something) or after a really difficult time in the relationship. I could even get down with one at five years, but please do not make it a wedding do-over. It is NOT another wedding because you can't marry the same guy twice without a divorce in between.

    Don't have a WP, first dance, showers, etc. That isn't appropriate for a vow renewal. Trust me, people WILL side eye it and find it tacky even if they won't say it to your face because they care about you. Just wear a nice, simple dress, have good food, drinks, good music, some dancing, and have a good time.


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  • You're already married. Skip the wedding party and other wedding traditions, please. That ship has sailed.
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    [QUOTE] I want to do things like we would have done them the first time, the "traditional" way.
    Posted by xoKhloe[/QUOTE]

    If you wanted to do things the traditional way, why didn't you just do them that way the first time?  I generally think big vow renewals are in poor taste, especially after only five years of marriage.  I make exceptions for situations involving immigration issues, health insurance, and military deployments, and many people think a big "re-do" ceremony is tacky even under those circumstances.  So I would agree with the others that what you're planning would be inappropriate.
  • If you wanted a big wedding with all the frills then you should have acted like a mature adult and waited until that was feasible. You did have a wedding - at a courthouse. Saying that that wedding wasn't good enough is a huge slap in the face to couples who have chosen to gone that route because that's what they wanted. Why would you want to have bridesmaids when you're not a bride? That's just silly.
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  • You only get one wedding, and you had yours three years ago, so please don't have a do-over because you didn't like the wedding you choose.  This would be like a couple that had a big wedding with all the trimmings saying that they really didn't like that wedding, and what they really wanted was a small courthouse wedding with only family present.  Would they have a do-over for that?  It's not appropriate, because they're already married. 

    If you want to have a kick-ass anniversary party, great.  But nothing wedding related as PPs have said.
  • Sorry but you made the decision to elope. You can't have a pretty princess day now. Having a simple vow renewal is fine. Have a fake wedding with a big puffy dress, bridesmaids, first dance, cake cutting, etc is not.
     
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_wedding-vow-renewal-ceremony?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:10Discussion:feb54e04-385e-413e-96e8-8ad446af8fcdPost:3c00088f-1267-40fc-be06-754351096c9d">Wedding Vow Renewal Ceremony</a>:
    [QUOTE]My name is Khloé and I'm new here. My husband and I have been married for almost 3 amazing years and have a beautiful 2 year old son together. We ran away together and eloped, and got married by the JP so we never got to have an *actual* wedding and reception with all the photos and memories to remember our special day by. Because of that -and also because we want to renew our vows and recommit our marriage to ourselves and to God-, we're planning a vow renewal for our 5th year. We want to go all out; big dress, tux w/ a rockstar twist to compliment my hubby's style, bridesmaids, first dance, tiered cake, etc. Both of us are way tooo excited about it and have already started planning!<strong> I was wondering for those who have renewed their vows, did you walk down the aisle together, or did you walk down the aisle to your husband after the wedding party has entered? I want to do things like we would have done them the first time, the "traditional" way. Just wondering what you have all done. :)</strong>
    Posted by xoKhloe[/QUOTE]

    Dear Lord Above (or Knot Lili since either can get the job done), please give us that Vow Renewal Forum!

    xoKhloe, the previous posters' opinions absolutely do represent a distinct attitude on TK about vow renewals. Then there's a large group of people who feel anything goes for vow renewals. Keep your eye out for a possible new forum here in the TK Community for the topic of vow renewals. That'll be the best place to pose questions and share ideas such as your options for walking down the isle.

    Until then, I'll throw in my opinion on the question you DID ask. DH and I are planning a vow renewal for our 15th anniversary next year and we are just as excited as you and your DH!! You said after the question that you would like to keep your renewal as close to what you would have done for a traditional wedding. Is there a reason that your father can't escort you down the isle to stand by your husband? Personally, an important part of the renewal for me will be seeing dh's face the first time he sees me in my renewal attire. So, we are considering coming in from opposite sides of the room, meeting at the end of the isle (where he will see me for the first time), then walking up together. We are also considering having my then-19 yo son escort me or me walking unescorted up the isle to meet my dh.

    Please do not let anyone run you out of the forums because they don't agree with what you are planning. There really are a lot of us here who have no problem with vow renewals that are exactly like weddings. And I really do have my fingers crossed that Knot Lili got the go-ahead on that vow renewal forum today! 

    Happy planning!

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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding Vow Renewal Ceremony : Who's trying to run her out of the forums?  She wanted  thoughts on her plans, and so people answered her!  Careful, your second agenda is showing.
    Posted by 1covejack[/QUOTE]

    Darn right my second agenda is showing! I'm not at all worried about keeping it hidden!

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    [QUOTE]A vow renewals board? Huh. Well, at least Second Weddings will lose some of the PPDers.
    Posted by cfaszews25[/QUOTE]

    That's what a lot of us are hoping for. Obviously, the vow renewal PPDers offend many of the wedding PPDers. The new renewal planners to TK especially tend to do this because they don't know the correct terminology and some of the brides are just looking for somebody to "put in their place" for their own entertainment apparently.

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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding Vow Renewal Ceremony : That's what a lot of us are hoping for. Obviously, the vow renewal PPDers offend many of the wedding PPDers. The new renewal planners to TK especially tend to do this because they don't know the correct terminology and some of the brides are just looking for s<strong>omebody to "put in their place" for their own entertainment apparently.</strong> Julie
    Posted by Julie2013[/QUOTE]

    Sorry but no one here puts people down for their own entertainment. We don't validate bad ideas- ie PPDs. They are an etiquette no no and people give advice based on the proper etiquette.
     
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding Vow Renewal Ceremony : I'm not sure what a wedding PPD is. Around here, PPD only refers to girls who are already married who want the big 'wedding' for their vow renewal. I don't think anyone is this thread was being mean to the OP or trying to 'put her in her place.' She wants a do-over wedding. She's already married, so that can't happen. She can plan a classy vow renewal, but trying to make it exactly like a wedding is silly. Since that isn't what it is.
    Posted by cfaszews25[/QUOTE]

    You've hit upon a very good point. People on TK have no problems with vow renewals as long as they are simple and classy.  We have problem with making vow renewals do over weddings ie PPDs (pretty princess days).
     
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding Vow Renewal Ceremony : I'm not sure what a wedding PPD is. Around here, PPD only refers to girls who are already married who want the big 'wedding' for their vow renewal. I don't think anyone is this thread was being mean to the OP or trying to 'put her in her place.' She wants a do-over wedding. She's already married, so that can't happen. She can plan a classy vow renewal, but trying to make it exactly like a wedding is silly. Since that isn't what it is.
    Posted by cfaszews25[/QUOTE]

    PPD means Pretty Princess Day, right? Well, a lot of us who are doing vow renewals find that term hypocritical coming from people planning events that are pretty much a PPD, too. Nobody has to have all the trimmings of most weddings. You end up just as married whether you have a large ceremony or no ceremony at all. So why have ANY of the trimmings? Because it's a PRETTY PRINCESS DAY.

    As to whether her renewal plans are classy or silly depends more on what her circle of friends and family find appropriate, I would think, not anonymous posters on the internet who have no idea what her local etiquette is on the matter. In some areas, wearing a sombrero to a party would be considered "classy". Around my area, it would be considered "silly" no matter how nice that hat might be. I'm not so narrow-minded as to think my local etiquette should reign supreme!

    As far as the rudeness, I'm really surprised when people come back to threads like this and say, "We weren't rude to her!! She just doesn't like what we have to say!" I'm pretty sure she didn't ask anybody their opinion about anything other than ideas for making her way down the isle. If somebody planning a <u>wedding</u> inquired about ideas on certain aspects of their wedding, like "We want to do an additional ceremony like a unity candle or sand ceremony -- anybody have any ideas?", most people would find it rude for people to respond with "Your event is tacky because you will be just as married if you just fill out paperwork! Don't embarrass yourself and your family by doing this!" Oh, or variations on this one -- "Don't go by what people say to your face, because they are REALLY giving you the side-eye mentally. I'm just telling you what people won't say to your face!" Seriously? What makes anybody think they know what EVERYBODY is thinking?! That's just a cop-out.

    I apologizing for turning that into a vent. I don't know if you have ever done or said any of that. I'm planning a vow renewal and am bugging TK like crazy to open a Vow Renewal forum (what some poster called my "second agenda" LOL -- more like a mission!). I've been a TK member since 2010 and I've just had enough of people being narrow-minded and rude to new vow renewers who don't know the terminology to make all this policially correct for the touchy brides! Yes, this is the internet and if the OP couldn't take hearing negative opinions, she shouldn't post. That doesn't make any of the comments less rude or less narrow-minded and there are quite a few of us with an opinion that supports her. And we have the right to our opinion just as much as those who think what she's doing isn't wise.

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  • edited September 2012
    OP...I'm not against VR (vow renewals) actually we just had one August 11, 2012 :) & we did go all out!!!

    I will definitely catch a lot of "tcjames ..you're giving bad advice or No, no, no"..but I come to realize no one knows what you've been through, so it's inappropriate to tell some how to celebrate a VR, unless you've seen first hand the trials & tribulations they've been through. But because you asked in an open forum don't catch feelings by the replies..

    First, let me say it does sound like you want a PPD and coming from a woman who made the choice to also JOP it the first time..NOT A GOOD LOOK..sorry but it's the truth...

    Now I don't live your life & I have no clue why you want to have a vow renewal & I really don't care. With marriages lasting less than 90 days, I celebrate & applaud all who have stuck it out and want to renew their vows at any point in their marriage..I wouldn't care if you if you showed up in cut offs & a tee shirt or the most expensive Vera Wang..If I was a guest, I would come & be  happy for you..
     
    Like you, I didn't know how to go about planning. I came here found many to be rude, but we took everything they posted about our VR to our VIP's for input of what they thought & how they felt about it, because after all we didn't want to offend anyone & definitely didn't want to look gift grabby..

    So OP I suggest you sit down with your husband & the family VIP's explain your ideas & go off not only verbal response but body language as well...Why? because when we told our VIP's how we it was stated that we should down play and dismiss certain aspects of our VR they were more hurt than happy. We didn't get this from their words but facial expresses which made us inquire what was wrong. It took a few hours but once they laid it out for us we knew immediately how to go about it... I really HTH, Good Luck & Congrats


    ETA: Almost forgot to reply to your question..My husband stood in the aisle of the church, WP, VIP's & pastor was at front. I came behind & tapped him on the shoulder..I will never forget the look on his face...
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding Vow Renewal Ceremony : PPD means Pretty Princess Day, right? Well, a lot of us who are doing vow renewals find that term hypocritical coming from people planning events that are pretty much a PPD, too. Nobody has to have all the trimmings of most weddings. You end up just as married whether you have a large ceremony or no ceremony at all. So why have ANY of the trimmings? Because it's a PRETTY PRINCESS DAY. As to whether her renewal plans are classy or silly depends more on what her circle of friends and family find appropriate, I would think, not anonymous posters on the internet who have no idea what her local etiquette is on the matter. In some areas, wearing a sombrero to a party would be considered "classy". Around my area, it would be considered "silly" no matter how nice that hat might be. I'm not so narrow-minded as to think my local etiquette should reign supreme! As far as the rudeness, I'm really surprised when people come back to threads like this and say, "We weren't rude to her!! She just doesn't like what we have to say!" I'm pretty sure she didn't ask anybody their opinion about anything other than ideas for making her way down the isle. If somebody planning a wedding  inquired about ideas on certain aspects of their wedding, like "We want to do an additional ceremony like a unity candle or sand ceremony -- anybody have any ideas?", most people would find it rude for people to respond with "Your event is tacky because you will be just as married if you just fill out paperwork! Don't embarrass yourself and your family by doing this!" Oh, or variations on this one -- "Don't go by what people say to your face, because they are REALLY giving you the side-eye mentally. I'm just telling you what people won't say to your face!" Seriously?<strong> What makes anybody think they know what EVERYBODY is thinking?! That's just a cop-out. I </strong>apologizing for turning that into a vent. I don't know if you have ever done or said any of that. I'm planning a vow renewal and am bugging TK like crazy to open a Vow Renewal forum (what some poster called my "second agenda" LOL -- more like a mission!). I've been a TK member since 2010 and I've just had enough of people being narrow-minded and rude to new vow renewers who don't know the terminology to make all this policially correct for the touchy brides! Yes, this is the internet and if the OP couldn't take hearing negative opinions, she shouldn't post. <strong>That doesn't make any of the comments less rude or less narrow-minded and there are quite a few of us with an opinion that supports her. </strong>And we have the right to our opinion just as much as those who think what she's doing isn't wise. Julie  
    Posted by Julie2013[/QUOTE]

     DITTO!! THIS!!! I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU..It's not WHAT you say but HOW you say it! Please Tell me what I'm thinking about some of these replies now??..hmmm anyone
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    [QUOTE]Aaaaand there's Julie's lecture.  Listen, Julie, I don't care what you do.  At all.  You don't offend me. I'm trying to help other people to not look like AW's, and to not have people side-eyeing them behind their backs.  I have no vested interest in criticizing anyone.  What people hear here is the truth.  <strong>That's what OP asked for.</strong>
    Posted by 1covejack[/QUOTE]

    She asked what we thought about her vow renewal plans in general in this thread? Where? What I read was her asking what ideas others might have for her walk down the isle ...

    And, yes, call it a "lecture" if you like. As long as you understand most of us don't ask for "lectures" on how to celebrate our anniversaries any more than you want a "lecture" on the appropriateness of your how you celebrate your wedding.

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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding Vow Renewal Ceremony : Holy eff that's a long post. Yes, my wedding was the whole shebang. I had a wedding party, a frou-frou dress, and a first dance. No on here is saying these things are bad. However, this are WEDDING things. It's called a WEDDING party, a WEDDING dress, the first dance is your FIRST DANCE AS MAN AND WIFE.<strong> If you are already married, then you don't get to do wedding things. Those are for weddings. Not vow renewals.</strong> <strong>Also, the OP asked for advice on what other people did. I've been to vow renewals, and what I said in my initial response was what they did. They were not re-do weddings.</strong>
    Posted by cfaszews25[/QUOTE]

    And, as you know, you are more than welcome to your opinion, as everybody else is theirs. We all know that. What I have a problem with is people thinking there is no other opinion BUT theirs. You say "they are not re-do weddings." I've seen a vow renewal that looked exactly like a re-do wedding. Not a sole there was confused by it, I promise you. We all thought it was lovely. 

    And the OP asked about what others did with their walk down the isle. It surprises me that anybody would think that means she wants opinions on her entire vow renewal plan -- anymore than a bride asking a question about her dress is asking opinions on her entire wedding. Whatever. Maybe the next time I'm asked my opinion on something in a couple's wedding, I should let them have it about what I REALLY think about their entire ceremony and reception?! Might people think I'm rude or tacky by doing so?

    "Holy eff that's a long post." You think? Looks like you managed, ok. But I'll stop here in case this is getting too long for your taste.

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    edited September 2012
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Wedding Vow Renewal Ceremony : Dear Lord Above (or Knot Lili since either can get the job done), please give us that Vow Renewal Forum! xoKhloe, the previous posters' opinions absolutely do represent a distinct attitude on TK about vow renewals. Then there's a large group of people who feel anything goes for vow renewals. Keep your eye out for a possible new forum here in the TK Community for the topic of vow renewals. That'll be the best place to pose questions and share ideas such as your options for walking down the isle. Until then, I'll throw in my opinion on the question you DID ask. DH and I are planning a vow renewal for our 15th anniversary next year and we are just as excited as you and your DH!! You said after the question that you would like to keep your renewal as close to what you would have done for a traditional wedding. Is there a reason that your father can't escort you down the isle to stand by your husband? Personally, an important part of the renewal for me will be seeing dh's face the first time he sees me in my renewal attire. So, we are considering coming in from opposite sides of the room, meeting at the end of the isle (where he will see me for the first time), then walking up together. We are also considering having my then-19 yo son escort me or me walking unescorted up the isle to meet my dh. Please do not let anyone run you out of the forums because they don't agree with what you are planning. There really are a lot of us here who have no problem with vow renewals that are exactly like weddings. And I really do have my fingers crossed that Knot Lili got the go-ahead on that vow renewal forum today!  Happy planning! Julie
    Posted by Julie2013[/QUOTE]

    I would take you more seriously if you knew how to spell.  It's aisle.  You clearly have thoughts on this topic and want to be heard.  Make sure you that understand what an isle is before continuing.
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    [QUOTE]Julie, just don't call us rude or make snide comments when we don't agree with you. OP posted a question on a public message board.  She got answers.  Might not have been what she (and clearly you) wanted to hear.  Tough luck.
    Posted by 1covejack[/QUOTE]

    Yeah, people being rude generally don't like being called out on it. It's not fun for most of us to watch others be bullied, so yep, I jumped in! Sue me. Or, as you said, tough luck.

    And did she REALLY get answers to the question she actually asked? A couple of us weighed in on what she could do for her walk, so sure, she got some answers.

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  • edited September 2012
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding Vow Renewal Ceremony : I would take you more seriously if you knew how to spell.  It's aisle.  You clearly have thoughts on this topic and want to be heard.  Make sure you that understand what an isle is before continuing.
    Posted by Joy2611[/QUOTE]

    You don't take thoughts seriously because of a misspelling? That's an interesting way to approach a debate ... I take it you have never misspelled something?

    Julie

    ETA: Or mix up words? Such as "Make sure <strong>you that</strong> understand what an isle is before continuing."
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding Vow Renewal Ceremony : You don't take thoughts seriously because of a misspelling? That's an interesting way to approach a debate ... I take it you have never misspelled something? Julie
    Posted by Julie2013[/QUOTE]

    In order to take someone seriously in written context, yes, spelling matters. "Isle" and "aisle" have two very different meanings; it's not as though it was an accidental misspelling one time. It was a repeated and consistent mistake.

    If you cannot be bothered to understand the appropriate spelling of a word, it is hard to seriously consider your argument.


    Try a "debate" (or proposal) in an academic, political, or other setting in a written form. I guarantee your arguments will not be accepted if you cannot spell appropriately.
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    edited September 2012
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_wedding-vow-renewal-ceremony?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:10Discussion:feb54e04-385e-413e-96e8-8ad446af8fcdPost:8c63d20f-9f51-46f9-8d8c-d164de2c3052">Re: Wedding Vow Renewal Ceremony</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding Vow Renewal Ceremony : You don't take thoughts seriously because of a misspelling? That's an interesting way to approach a debate ... I take it you have never misspelled something? Julie ETA: Or mix up words? Such as "Make sure you that understand what an isle is before continuing."
    Posted by Julie2013[/QUOTE]

    You just feel passionately about this and want to be heard.  In a forum of words, you should learn the proper spelling and meanings of words.  It's simple a fact of life.  Would you buy products from a website that says: BYEERS! FOR SAIL!  I wouldn't.

    You honestly didn't know how to spell the word.  Don't take it as anything more than a correction.

    EDIT: In fact, this very topic gets to the heart of this post.  So many people turn defensive the MINUTE they are told they are doing something wrong.  You spelled the word incorrectly, didn't know it, and continued with it.  I corrected you and you immediately attacked me.  This woman wants to do a vow renewal and asked for opinions.  People didn't agree with it and several people turned defensive. 

    It's okay to say "Yup - that's wrong.  Let's do it correctly next time."  What do you possibly have to gain by saying "Who cares how I spell isle?"  Nothing.  You just don't want to admit that you were wrong.

    And - yup - I mixed up the order of my words.  I proofread my posts but that one got by me.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding Vow Renewal Ceremony : In order to take someone seriously in written context, yes, spelling matters. "Isle" and "aisle" have two very different meanings; it's not as though it was an accidental misspelling one time. It was a repeated and consistent mistake. If you cannot be bothered to understand the appropriate spelling of a word, it is hard to seriously consider your argument. Try a "debate" (or proposal) in an academic, political, or other setting in a written form. I guarantee your arguments will not be accepted if you cannot spell appropriately.
    Posted by KellyBrian2013[/QUOTE]

    Well, I promise you I will remember that the two of you, Joy and KellyBrian, have my best interest at heart because you do not want me to fail in the world of debate. That's very kind of you and I will try to run all my written thoughts through grammar and spelling check before posting. I also pledge to be more careful with my homonyms so as I do not endanger the validity of any correct point I might have.

    Julie 
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_wedding-vow-renewal-ceremony?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:10Discussion:feb54e04-385e-413e-96e8-8ad446af8fcdPost:08216066-3a52-4573-b81a-b05855a0f94d">Re: Wedding Vow Renewal Ceremony</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding Vow Renewal Ceremony : You just feel passionately about this and want to be heard.  In a forum of words, you should learn the proper spelling and meanings of words.  It's simple a fact of life.  Would you buy products from a website that says: BYEERS! FOR SAIL!  I wouldn't. You honestly didn't know how to spell the word.  Don't take it as anything more than a correction. EDIT: In fact, this very topic gets to the heart of this post.  So many people turn defensive the MINUTE they are told they are doing something wrong.  You spelled the word incorrectly, didn't know it, and continued with it.  I corrected you and you immediately attacked me.  This woman wants to do a vow renewal and asked for opinions.  People didn't agree with it and several people turned defensive.  It's okay to say "Yup - that's wrong.  Let's do it correctly next time."  What do you possibly have to gain by saying "Who cares how I spell isle?"  Nothing.  You just don't want to admit that you were wrong. And - yup - I mixed up the order of my words.  I proofread my posts but that one got by me.
    Posted by Joy2611[/QUOTE]

    One got by you in this one, too. Does that mean I shouldn't take your two posts in this thread seriously because you didn't get your words exactly right? Sounds a bit immature for a forum full of adults from many different educational backgrounds, imo.

    Definitely, isle is WRONG and aisle is CORRECT. For the sake of everybody out there who has not been able to figure out what I meant, please forgive all the confusion I caused.

    Julie
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_wedding-vow-renewal-ceremony?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:10Discussion:feb54e04-385e-413e-96e8-8ad446af8fcdPost:6e8d720a-8cb2-4a57-a482-7af10f046ba5">Re: Wedding Vow Renewal Ceremony</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding Vow Renewal Ceremony : <strong>Dude, what crawled up your ass and died, Julie? I've been nothing but courteous to you. No reason to get bitchy.</strong> And of course people can have different opinions. But vow renewals are not weddings. That's a fact. You can make it look like a wedding - but it doesn't make it one. And the OP asked how others did vow renewals, which sounds like a very general question. So people general answers on vow renewals. You really need to calm down.
    Posted by cfaszews25[/QUOTE]

    Funny, I had the same thoughts about your posts, but thought it might be a bit rude to actually type it out. Guess it's not. Maybe you need to calm down?

    Julie
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding Vow Renewal Ceremony : <strong>One got by you in this one, too. Does that mean I shouldn't take your two posts in this thread seriously because you didn't get your words exactly right?</strong> Sounds a bit immature for a forum full of adults from many different educational backgrounds, imo. Definitely, isle is WRONG and aisle is CORRECT. For the sake of everybody out there who has not been able to figure out what I meant, please forgive all the confusion I caused. Julie
    Posted by Julie2013[/QUOTE]

    There's a huge difference between a simple mistake in spelling or grammar and repeated, deliberate use of a word that has a completely different meaning than intended.

    But perhaps that is too complex for you to understand.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding Vow Renewal Ceremony : One got by you in this one, too. Does that mean I shouldn't take your two posts in this thread seriously because you didn't get your words exactly right? Sounds a bit immature for a forum full of adults from many different educational backgrounds, imo. Definitely, isle is WRONG and aisle is CORRECT. For the sake of everybody out there who has not been able to figure out what I meant, please forgive all the confusion I caused. Julie
    Posted by Julie2013[/QUOTE]

    You are purposefully being obtuse.  ::shrug::
  • How about you all lock me up into a forum called Vow Renewals? I'd be out of your hair, you wouldn't have to worry at all about my spelling or grammar (because I was most definitely mixing up isle/aisle and will never, ever deny it even though my admission and apology to being ignorant on the two will never be accepted!). Win/win all around!

    Julie 
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding Vow Renewal Ceremony : There's a huge difference between a simple mistake in spelling or grammar and repeated, deliberate use of a word that has a completely different meaning than intended. But perhaps that is too complex for you to understand.
    Posted by KellyBrian2013[/QUOTE]

    I've already posted that I am sorry that I didn't pay attention to the use of isle/aisle and that I was most definitely in the wrong for it. Not sure what else will make you feel better about my mistake. But here's another apology -- I. Am. Sorry.

    That doesn't change the fact that you confused your words in both posts about my spelling error. And you are telling me I won't be taken seriously if I misuse/misspell words. I disagree. You confusing your words didn't hinder your message at all. I completely understood what you had to say. Do you truly think that my misuse of the word isle really confused my message that much? Yeah, I know people may not agree with me. No biggie, but I do think it's rather childish to pick on spelling and grammar.

    Julie
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    [QUOTE]Actually, if you want to get technical about it, Kelly TRANSPOSED words and you MISUSED a word.  No one actually misspelled anything.
    Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

    I won't deny that one, either!!!

    Julie
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    [QUOTE]Actually, if you want to get technical about it, Kelly TRANSPOSED words and you MISUSED a word.  No one actually misspelled anything.
    Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

    If we want to get REALLY technical, it was Joy who transposed her words. Not me ;) I merely quoted Julie's response to her.

    But you are 100% correct on transposed words versus misused words. I don't believe I said something was misspelled (I realize you weren't replying to my post, Stage) but if I did, my apologies.
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