Gifts for the groom? Our parents?

lisalaroc · July 2010

Does anyone know what the proper etiquette is for gifts? I am not sure what to get my parents or his parents. Is it standard to definitely get them a gift for the wedding? What about the groom? Should I get him something? This is the one thing I can't really ask my parents about!! Any help would be greatly appreciated!

kris10royal · July 2010

It is traditional to get the parents and groom a gift. Some people give the parents albums, some give gift cards, trinkets, send them on trips, etc I mean, its basically what you can squeeze into the budget. I plan on gettin my mom and step dad a gift card to their favorite restaurant (which to pay for both will have to be about $125-150) and an album. Don't know about my dad and no clue what FIs parents are getting besides an album. I am getting FI a little black box with boudior pix of me. I think he'll love it and be surprised because I am super shy when it comes to taking off my clothes in front of people. Have fun with it and be creative.

skippylouwho · July 2010

As a MOB and a MOG, maybe I'm in the minority but, I do NOT want my kids spending money on gifts for us. I would rather they spend it on themselves, either for the wedding, the honeymoon, or their home.

Alyssa0421 · July 2010

It is traditional to buy gifts for your parents as well as the WP as a thank you for their love and support. We spent about $50-75/parent. We bought like it was their birthday, and our photography package came with 2 parent albums so they were given those as well.

My groom and I did not exchange traditional gifts as a way of saving money, since we paid for most of our wedding/honeymoon. We exchanged cards the morning of the wedding.

brookelynpaisley · July 2010

It's traditional to get the parents a gift as a thank you for their support of you throughout the years, even if they're not paying for or hosting the wedding. You don't have to though, but it's a nice token and gesture of your appreciation.

As for the gift for your groom, I think it's up to you guys. We didn't do day-of gifts, per se, but we used the money we could have spent on gifts on a new puppy. Some couples decide that the wedding is gift enough, other couples are traditional and exchange gifts and cards. I think you could talk to your fiance about it and see what he thinks. You could decide to do gifts and still surprise him with the gift itself.

emarston1 · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gifts-groom-parents?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:f9db20be-a33c-43ea-bdc5-4d32b3d03f05Post:0832bd84-8e04-48c7-a4b8-8c75c76d4758">Re: Gifts for the groom? Our parents?</a>:
[QUOTE]As a MOB and a MOG, maybe I'm in the minority but, I do NOT want my kids spending money on gifts for us. I would rather they spend it on themselves, either for the wedding, the honeymoon, or their home.
Posted by skippylouwho[/QUOTE]

This is exactly what my mom said when I mentioned something about gifts for the parents. She is adament that she doesn't want anything and that "seeing my baby girl happy on her wedding day is gift enough."

lisalaroc · August 2010

Thanks everyone! I think my parents, my mom in particular, will definitely expect something. The tricky part is I really don't think my FI's parents will at all! Maybe I will talk to him and make what we get them more of his decision. I know we are doing parent albums for each of them regardless. I also know what I want to get my mom - but dads are just so stinkin tricky!

As for my fiance, I will get him something little but probably won't discuss. I feel like he wouldn't think of it on his own, so I don't want to be telling him to spend money on me. Plus, if he does think of it - I will be pleasantly surprised!

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