My Mom passed away four years ago so I have my grandma helping me plan my wedding but she is the ultimate Negative Nancy. She is constantly telling me to just go to the justice of the peace, I cant afford food for the reception, and worst of all she thinks I should make the guests make sandwiches. Yrs lay or slices of bread, cheese, ham and condiments. That idea horrified me. What kind of host would that make me if the guests had to make their own food. I want so badly for her to be involved in the planning but she is just so negative. I guess the fact that she hate my future husband for some seriously unknown reason. Every time someone and her she can't give a straight answer. He had been nothing but nice to her. I'm so afraid that all of her negativity is going to stress me out even more and possibly run my big day after all she already informed me that she is wearing black to my wedding. So with all that said any tips on dealing with a " Negative Nancy"?