I think this is more of a vent and then I have a question at the end. My FI and I are paying for our wedding and wanted a fairly small wedding. (It cant be that small due to my large family, so we wanted under 150). Well the day I ask my FMIL for her guest list she adds on an additional 20 couples (40 people) of her friends. I was upset and so was my FI so he talked to his mother about cutting her list down and she explained that most of these invites were curtesy invites and that most people already said they couldn't make it. So I sucked it up and sent the invites. Well... Now almost every single one of her friends has responded yes! His mother has invited more friends to our wedding than my FI and myself combined. My FMIL then justified it by saying she would be paying for all her friends since there is a lot, but thats besides the point. Do I really need to spend my wedding night talking to 40 different people that I've never met in my life? Not to mention that our small wedding is now blown up into almost 200 people! I know its too late to do anything about it, but is it okay if I dont speak to all of them on my wedding night when I wanted to spend my time with my close family and friends??