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Possible Dilema

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So my aunt is throwing me a bridal shower (with the help of my bridemaids).  My mom asked me the other day if FMIL was wanting to throw me a shower as well.  I told her that she hasn't mentioned anything, but I would ask. FMIL knows the date of my bridal shower. If my FMIL hasn't brought it up should I still ask? Or should I just ask any way to make sure? I don't want her to feel like she has to throw me one, but if she wants to she can.  I hope this makes sense!
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    KrisKennyKrisKenny
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    Don't ask yourself. If she wants to, she will mention it.
    Or, maybe your mom can talk to her and ask. If you do, it will just seem gift grabby.
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    Ask FMIL who she wants to be sure is included from her family in the shower.  When I did this, my FMIL said "Actually, I was hoping to throw one for you too if that's okay".  I really was just trying to see who she wanted to include, not look for another shower offer but it ended up working out well for both of us.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_possible-dilema?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:3afef825-f51b-4c70-8bb9-dac731de0a50Post:e81cec58-eab4-4c5d-93a3-a167c80a7d3f">Re: Possible Dilema</a>:
    [QUOTE]Don't ask yourself. If she wants to, she will mention it. Or, maybe your mom can talk to her and ask. If you do, it will just seem gift grabby.
    Posted by KrisKenny[/QUOTE]
    I don't want to look gift grabby! Thanks for the advice!
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    KrisKennyKrisKenny
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    I like Jaime's advice. That would work also.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_possible-dilema?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:3afef825-f51b-4c70-8bb9-dac731de0a50Post:096cfcf2-7ecd-49d2-a683-7128aa38b0f8">Re: Possible Dilema</a>:
    [QUOTE]Ask FMIL who she wants to be sure is included from her family in the shower.  When I did this, my FMIL said "Actually, I was hoping to throw one for you too if that's okay".  I really was just trying to see who she wanted to include, not look for another shower offer but it ended up working out well for both of us.
    Posted by jaime10285[/QUOTE]

    <div>This! That way you don't look like you're just wanting gifts.</div>
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_possible-dilema?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:3afef825-f51b-4c70-8bb9-dac731de0a50Post:096cfcf2-7ecd-49d2-a683-7128aa38b0f8">Re: Possible Dilema</a>:
    [QUOTE]Ask FMIL who she wants to be sure is included from her family in the shower.  When I did this, my FMIL said "Actually, I was hoping to throw one for you too if that's okay".  I really was just trying to see who she wanted to include, not look for another shower offer but it ended up working out well for both of us.
    Posted by jaime10285[/QUOTE]
    Good idea!! I should probably ask her soone since my shower is in 3 months!
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    [QUOTE]Ask FMIL who she wants to be sure is included from her family in the shower.  When I did this, my FMIL said "Actually, I was hoping to throw one for you too if that's okay".  I really was just trying to see who she wanted to include, not look for another shower offer but it ended up working out well for both of us.
    Posted by jaime10285[/QUOTE]

    agree
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_possible-dilema?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:3afef825-f51b-4c70-8bb9-dac731de0a50Post:096cfcf2-7ecd-49d2-a683-7128aa38b0f8">Re: Possible Dilema</a>:
    [QUOTE]Ask FMIL who she wants to be sure is included from her family in the shower.  When I did this, my FMIL said "Actually, I was hoping to throw one for you too if that's okay".  I really was just trying to see who she wanted to include, not look for another shower offer but it ended up working out well for both of us.
    Posted by jaime10285[/QUOTE]
    This is really good advice.
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    ZimsgirlZimsgirl
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    I wouldn't ask. If she hasn't offered at this point I'm guessing she won't. Mine hasn't asked either and I'm perfectly fine with that because my mom and sisters are doing one back home
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_possible-dilema?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:3afef825-f51b-4c70-8bb9-dac731de0a50Post:096cfcf2-7ecd-49d2-a683-7128aa38b0f8">Re: Possible Dilema</a>:
    [QUOTE]Ask FMIL who she wants to be sure is included from her family in the shower.  When I did this, my FMIL said "Actually, I was hoping to throw one for you too if that's okay".  I really was just trying to see who she wanted to include, not look for another shower offer but it ended up working out well for both of us.
    Posted by jaime10285[/QUOTE]
    Thia is great advice
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    Melissa603Melissa603 member
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    I like the idea of asking if there is any family she would like invited to the one being thrown by your aunt - or have your aunt ask her directly. Then she might mention wanting to throw an additional shower
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    Purple&7Purple&7 member
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    Thanks for the help ladies! I hope I don't sound gift grabby, that's not me at all.
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    I also agree with Jaime.
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