I have not had a relationship at all with my mother for three years. Very long and complicated story but the final straw is when I quit my job (very good job) moved back to my hometown to help her run her company. Worked for her for 5 years with a very low salary but with a free apartment. (a really reduced lifestyle than I was used to) but the crux of it was the company would be mine someday and therefore I was willing to sacrifice.
She has no money management skills. She bought a Lexxus, a Porshe, a harley and a 45,000 truck without my knowledge out of company funds (yes, her company but she was hiring me to do help her make it financially viable) and 200K in credit card debts. She got mad at me one day when on my day off I was going out with MY friends and told her she couldnt come when she invited herself. She then proceded to send me a certified mail eviction notice and fire me. I know it sounds unreasonable and awful and incomprehensible to some people but it's really not an exaggeration.. there are a lot more examples of her "mothering" skills but I wont go into them.
Anyway I'm doing fine now. I'm actually happier than I've ever been in my life met a wonderful guy and am getting married!! She sends me an email last week that says "I heard you sent out your invitations (actually I didnt I sent save the date emails months ago) and although I dont need an invitation I'm letting you know that I will be attending as you are my daughter and I want to be the mother of the bride." WTF??? She also sent an email to my FI telling him she doesnt know what my problem is but she wants to talk to me and make things good..
I dont want to make nice.. I just want to be left alone and be happy. I've never been happy when she's in my life. I'm in my late 30's and I'm finally happy!! So this may have been wrong but I responded...."You are not invited to my private event. This is for my invited guests only and they are the only ones allowed to attend. If you attempt to attend the police will be called."
Now all i can think of is I'm getting married and she's ruining something else in my life. All day I'll be worried that she will show up and make a scene. Most of my friends understand that she's nuts but my FI's friends and family dont and it will be embarrassing...
Oh my what to do?? any advice?? No, she wont just show up and be quiet and good.. not her nature...