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I'm working on my seating chart, and I was planning on sitting my parents and in laws at different tables. one of my BMs told me that it's rude to do that. I figured that our parents would prefer to be with their own family or friends that they don't see very often. What did/are you going to do?
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  • StephBeanWed61502StephBeanWed61502 member
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    It's definitely not rude - I don't think I've ever been to a wedding where all of the parents shared a table.  Usually each set of parents hosts their own table, at least in my experience.  Your friend is just plain incorrect.
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  • StephanieM22StephanieM22 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_seating-arrangements-6?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:87169be4-fd37-4f50-b2e2-c52851dfb88aPost:3bd0f0ce-2d93-4318-b96a-e5a8d1d7f9d6">Re: Seating arrangements</a>:
    [QUOTE]It's definitely not rude - I don't think I've ever been to a wedding where all of the parents shared a table.  Usually each set of parents hosts their own table, at least in my experience.  Your friend is just plain incorrect.
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    <div>This. I also have to worry about divorced parents at my wedding each parent is getting their own table. </div>
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  • notyetavetnotyetavet
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    Ditto PPs. I've never seen both sets of parents at the same table.
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  • Kate61487Kate61487 member
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    MIL sat with a whole table of her friends, while my parents sat with one of my uncles and his kids.  I split up all of my "immediate" family (parents, brother, grandparents) so that they could be with some more distant relatives they dont see often, and it worked really well.

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  • librababylibrababy
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    I don't think that it's rude to split them up. I am not sitting FI's parents with mine. As a mtter of fact his family will sit with each other and my familywith mine. They can mingle if they choose but I don't want them to feel like they have to sit with people they ahrdely know.
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  • ccarrion77ccarrion77
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    Not rude at all.  Mine aren't sitting together, never really thought about putting them together.  They really don't know each other all they well since they live far apart.
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  • bongebonge member
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    I agree that it is not rude too. that seems to be the concensus so i don't see where your friend got her information. 

    My parents are divorced, my mom's table will have her childhood friends. 
    My dad's table will have his family & childhood friend. 
    His parents table will have his grandma (my mom does NOT want her family sitting with her) & some other family with them. 
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  • heylady87heylady87
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    My mom asked outright to not be at the same table as my future in-laws, simply because she wants to sit with the rest of our family.
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  • Lark2013Lark2013
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    Personally,  I don't see the point in even doing assigned seating.  It feels very uptight and stressfull.  By not doing seating arrangements, everybody can simply sit where they want...less stress for you.
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