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• kyrgyzstan member

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  He should figure out what the deal is so you can stop speculating.

  
  

  I'm confused, do you think they should pay BAH for wherever he is and BAH for you? I don't think it's appropriate to give two BAHs to someone no matter what his rank is. The military is getting its budget cut left and right, and should save where it can. I'm of the opinion that way more people should be forced to live either on base/in the barracks. The mission isn't served by money being wasted. Plus, I genuinely believe that it's good for more senior people to have crappy living arrangements on occasion because then young unmarried junior enlisted to see that marriage doesn't solve all their living complaints.

  
  

  If that's not what you think, and you're annoyed he has to live on the ship just for his comfort's sake, I think you should look at the positives. You won't be paying for two households using one allowance, you can save money instead. 

  
  

  FI lived off base for two years, one year surrounding a deployment, and about a year while on TAD recruiting duty. When he lat moved to his current base, that base decided to end all single BAH for NCOs, they could live outside the barracks, but in junior enlisted married housing. It's not at all comfortable for him, but it's military life. 

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• 1sttimenavywife2be

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  oooh, no nothing like that - i guess i should have been clearer - in a round about way, i guess my question is will they MAKE him send me the BAH or can he opt to use it for himself where he is stationed until i move there?
  
  I dont want him to have to live on the boat but he is under the impression (again, he has yet to really talk to anyone since hes been out and about for awhile) that once we are married that they might make him send me the BAH, although I think he may be able to opt out....
  
  Does that make sense?
  
  Again, sorry if this is a random and stupid question - and obviously these are answers he has to find out and im not using this site to substitute the information, just that I am up late and was thinking about it....
  
  thanks for the info :-)

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• kyrgyzstan member

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  Hmmm. I don't know the 100% answer to that, but I doubt it, he can just get married and move as far as I know. All the geos I know have wives who need the BAH back at home. I hope he can get an apartment or whatever. He just needs to talk to someone. Speculating is the worst.

  
  

  And I'm glad you weren't saying that, I always have my guard up on this board, unfortunately.
  

  
  

  ETA: Geo bach is generally a positive thing, since the SM gets to live in the bricks for free instead of splitting one BAH, so I doubt they'll force him to live on the ship. How will they even know that you're not moving there?

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• Beachy730 member

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  I have never heard of them making him send the BAH to you.  When we first found out that H would be deploying as soon as we moved here, I considered staying in NY at my parent's house during that time.  If we did that, then the BAH amount would have been based off of where I was living at the time (NY) instead of WA where H is stationed.  But there was nothing about him being required to send me money.  

  
  

  H is also in the Navy, and I figure all branches are the same, but the BAH just gets added to his check to be spent how we wish.  They have no clue whether he would take that money out and send it to you or not.  I really don't think they would MAKE him live on the ship.  If you choose to pay 2 rents or mortgages with the one BAH, that's your choice.  And if he already has a home set up there, they won't make him give it up and put his stuff into storage just because you don't live there.  

  
  

  Also, how soon will he be getting new orders after you get married?  If you aren't married before the orders are cut, they don't pay for you to move.  And even if you are married, they don't oay for your move to him.  So if you are trying to work your move around when you can get your move paid for, I would plan otherwise.  

  

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• 1sttimenavywife2be

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  yeah, i dont need the BAH - I have a full time job and we dont have kids (yet :-) and since he moved and has his place there and my place here, we dont need me to have the BAH.
  
  His orders are in the state he is in now, WA (im in San Diego) and we know they wont pay for me to move, and thats not a big deal...Before he gets sent out this summer, he will be getting rid of his apartment, storing his stuff etc etc. When he gets back (early 2012) he still has one more year there so i will move up there when he gets back.
  
  I just think that he is being mis-informed and because he has yet to get the right information (Im gonna make him this week though lol) and that is what is in the air.
  
  I dont want his BAH nor do i need it, and we more then likey wont even combine finances until after he is back anyway. once in awhie if I need a bill paid or something he will do it, but mostly im self sufficiant.
  
  Thank you all for the info....:-)

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• Beachy730 member

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  Which base in WA is he at?

  

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• 1sttimenavywife2be

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_going-navy-wife?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:f0f95ab1-33d1-4478-921b-ea7927d710d9Post:2daa83c5-43c4-478d-b0e1-f35b92adc927">Re: going to be a navy wife!</a>:
  [QUOTE]Which base in WA is he at?
  Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]
  
  He is in Bremmerton....

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• Beachy730 member

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  Oh ok.  We are at Everett.  

  

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• CelticSpaz

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  welcome and congratulations on your upcoming wedding!!!

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• jamiedustin47 member

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  I have been a Navy Wife for 7 years.. When we were in different states , they paid for where the dependants were.

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• jackieandbilly

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  Aw sorry I have no advice/information on your housing money question...my fiance has been in the Navy for 4 years, the whole time we've been dating, but he was at USNA so it was a little different. We live in 2 different states now too, only until May when I graduate woohoo! So excited to be married, but of course Navy life/deployment/base housing/everything else is a little intimidating and nervewracking.

  
  

  But congratulations on your upcoming wedding:) I LOVE San Diego btw- visited my fiance there once and I didn't want to leave! He's in Monterey CA right now so we might do a quick trip up there for our mini-honeymoon!

  Nimi and Little Bite

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