Today FI and I had pre-cana. For those of you who don't know, it's a marriage prep class offered by the Catholic Church. I was really looking forward to it because I'm a big believer in really talking about marriage and making sure you are both on the same wavelength. The 5 hour course was broken up into 4 sessions, a welcome/seminar on adjusting from single to married life, a session on finances, a session on getting to know your FI, and a session on Natural Family Planning. I was really pumped about the finances session because FI live together but have our money separate. We plan on merging finances once we're married (or slightly before).
The first session was a woman talking to everyone as if we had no idea who our fiances are. You would have thought we were all on first dates. She also told us that our FIs will never change so if there is anything that bugs you, talk about it now. Then she proceeded to tell us that when she and her husband got married, her husband spent every cent he earned and she was able to get him to save money.
Next was the finances workshop given by a retired accounted. He told us that he is addicted to gambling. He also told us how much debt all of his children are in. He then told us what his house was worth when they bought it and what it's worth now. He didn't have us talk to each other even once, just told us about how to get out of debt and what kind of mortgages to get (FI already owns a home). I know not everyone has a house yet but I thought it would be more about merging finances, not buying a house 101.
The "getting to know your FI" session was fun because the priest that led it was really fun and brought a lot of humor to it. Luckily, we both know each other pretty well!
The Natural Family Planning session also sounded interesting to me because I plan to use these techniques to get pregnant. I love my birth control pills so I probably won't use it for contraception but I'm kind of a closet Bio nerd so it sounded really interesting to me. It's a good thing I know what NFP is because I would have been really lost throughout this whole presentation. They spent the whole time giving us "teasers" to sign up (and pay) for their course.
All in all, I'm really disappointed. I really thought we'd get more out of it. Have any of you gone through pre-cana? Was yours different?