My wedding is in May, when I asked my bridesmaids, I asked two of my best friends, my sister, and my cousin who will be 16 at the time of the wedding. I talked with her mom about it and she thanked me profusely for including my cousin. The first time we went brides maid dress shopping she called to say she had to attend volleyball camp and if she wasn't there she wouldn't be allowed to play, it was still early in planning so I said that was fine. In December we made plans again to look at Bridesmaids dresses, well one of my bridesmaid's nephews was really sick so I understood completely that she couldn't come. I asked my cousin and she said she had a chorus rehearsel that day but would try, well we were going to Macon because that's close to where my sister lives, my MOH and I were the only ones who ended up going.
When I got back from Macon I found out from my grandmother that my cousin didn't want to go because her mom wasn't going to be going, my feelings were hurt. I was sorry she didn't feel comfortable enough with me to go.
Fast forward a couple weeks, I let my aunt know we would be going Saturday, Feb 4 to get the other bridesmaids dress and if my cousin and her could come that would be great. She said that sounded great, well a couple weeks ago I asked if we were still on and she said that my cousin had a rehearsel for a couple hours, so I said that was fine just let me know when she's done and we will work around her schedule as the other BM and I were free all day.
This past Sunday I called my aunt and my cousin and got no answer, I left a message asking what time would be good for them. Neither of them called back, Sunday night my grandmother called me, she told me that my aunt had told her they wouldn't be going Saturday and that most likely they will not even be at the wedding because my cousin is in a Spring Musical that night. My grandmother told her, "But that's Mari and Wesley's wedding day." and my aunt said, "Well sorry it's cousins's big night as well."
I am happy for my cousin, but the spring musical goes on all week, the last night just happens to be on our wedding day. Since our wedding is at 5 and the musical starts at 8 my grandmother asked if they could at least come to the ceremony but my aunt said no probably not.
My cousin was also supposed to sing at the wedding, now we will just play that song as our first dance. I'm not upset about that or even the uneven sides, I just wanted them to be there, we've always been a very close family.
Sorry it ended up being so long
