Vow Renewal Ettiquette

Re: Vow Renewal Ettiquette

• Beachy730 member

  

  February 2011 edited December 2011

  I would ask the officiant, I'm sure he's done vow renewals before and probably has a better idea of what to announce. 
  
  As for your dad walking you down the aisle, to me it seems pointless since you're already married, but I guess it depends on what kind of day you're already having.  For a vow renewal I would never be wearing a big white dress and doing all the traditional wedding things, so I wouldn't do it.  But if you're already doing all that, what difference does it make to do one more?

  

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• calindi member

  

  February 2011 edited December 2011

  Congratulations!
  
  You can word the invitations differently to indicate that it's a vow renewal, like I wouldn't recommend saying your parents invite you to witness...blah blah blah... since you're already married, I feel it's probably appropriate that you both be doing the inviting.
  
  So something like this:
  
  "Jane and Joe
  Together with their Families
  Invite you to Join them to celebrate their marriage
  as they renew their vows"
  
  You can have your Dad walk you down the aisle if you want, but perhaps not the "hand off", but rather a hug and kiss at the end and he can sit down and you walk the rest of the way yourself?  You can do it however you want to, really.  Some people might think it's weird, but at the end of the day, no matter what you do with a vow renewal after JOP'ing, some people are going to judge you.  Just be sure everyone knows what's going on, and then do what makes you both happy.

  
  
  
  
  
  

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• ChevyGirl25

  

  February 2011 edited December 2011

  Calindi,
  Our invitations were  sent out about a month ago and DH and I just got married this weekend, so changing inviations isn't really an option. However, we are sending out an announcement this week explaining the situation to our guests.
  
  What are some ways we should change our traditionally planned wedding ceremony into a vow renewal ceremony?
  

  
  
  
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• Jynxey member

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  I think since it is all happening so quickly you really don't need to change a lot. Wear your big white dress, have your dad walk you down the isle, and be announced. I don't think any of that is pointless, those are really nice things to have and I would be sad missing out on them all. Sometimes life gives you hiccups, and that by no means you shouldn't be able to have your dream wedding. I would definitely still talk to the person performing the wedding and tell them what is going on, and see what advice they have. But, over all it's your wedding and you can do whatever you would like to.

  
  

  Congratulations on getting married and your upcoming wedding/vow renewal! 

  

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• SamiJoeB

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  Best advice I can give you, is to talk to your officiant, and to be upfront with everyone. It sounds like you are being honest and not hiding anything from your guests which is excellent!! Congrats on both!!

  

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• Aja Ferguson member

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  I think you should do what you want!

  My husband and I both military got married 3 yrs ago here in Hawaii. We are moving back to the states at the end of this year and we are going to have our "big" wedding next May on our anniversary. I am going to do everything, from bridesmaids to a wedding dress. I agree that life throws us different directions and not everyone is able to have a traditional wedding the first time. It will be a very special moment for us because we were unable to express our vows etc. In front of the people that we love. We have wanted this and our able to do it so why not do it big. I deserve my dream wedding just like you do, regardless if I did already get married due to personal life situations. Do you girl..Have fun and congrats!!

  BTW we are putting "Join us for our Wedding Celebration"  on our invites and save the dates.

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• jfg4u4

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  do what you are comfortable with.
  If you already have everything in place for a big day and that is what you want then go with it. I remember going to a couples vow renewal, they did it big and it was a joy to celebrate with them and see the love that they share. make it ya'lls day, have fun, and celebrate being married.

  Brittany and Matthew December 28 USAF- Proud Fianc?

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