19 years old, and engaged

Tula214 · August 2010

I feel so young on this site. Is anybody else as young as I am, or close to my age?

CWill16 · August 2010

I am mainly a lurker, I don't comment much.

I am 20, and you will generally get a lot of heat on these boards for being young and engaged. Congratulations and good luck to you

bettyshaw · August 2010

I'm 20 and a lurker as well! Congratulations on your engagement!

frenchy730 · August 2010

You are a youngn'! As long as you handle yourself maturely on these boards, you should be alright.

Good luck and congrats.

bethsmiles · August 2010

I'm 20. As long as you don't act immature on the boards you shouldn't have a problem just because of your age. I never have.

Larentia · August 2010

I'm twenty (turning twenty-one next month) and engaged.

callalily13 · August 2010

22 and congratulations

mrsosgood · August 2010

I'm 19, I do feel like one of the younger ones on here but I know what's right for me.
Congrats!

futuredaniel10 · August 2010

I'm also 20, 21 in October. My Fi is 19 as well. But I think as long as you know what your getting into its up to you to judge. Good luck! Happy planning!

lindsayrae1986 · August 2010

i'm 24 and i thought i was young! good luck to you and your man... wishing you lots of happiness!

sofiadmitrich · August 2010

I'm 20 and just got engaged! I don't know much about these sites, but I'm hoping they can be of help since I know NOTHING about planning a wedding!

lauraleighjared · August 2010

I'm eighteen and I got engaged on my graduation night (no, I'm not pregnant.) My finace and I have been dating for 7 yearsthis December. I feel really young on this sight also, but like someone else said.. I know what's right for me. Congrats on your engagement (:

lam11 · August 2010

I'm 19 ( I'll be 20 in October) and like some of the other knotties said...I know whats right for me.
Congrats on ur engagement & congrats to all the other young brides!

brilibby4 · August 2010

I will be twenty one in a month and my fiance is a year older than me. However, we are graduating from college this year and have had an apartment together for about a year. We both pay our own bills and tuition and haven't been dependent on our parents financially for years. We also won't be getting married until 2012, a year after graduation. We have both been in long term relationships before meeting each other. I think all of these factors make a big difference in our ability to be completely confident in our marriage despite our young ages. I think it is very important to LIVE outside of high school (in the real world) before settling down. My mother did not do this and ruined her marriage and my family years later because of finding the sudden need to find herself. Please establish your independence before getting married.

ReneeJacob · August 2010

I don't think that there is a universally right or wrong age for marriage. With that being said, I was engaged at 19 (I'm 28 now) and ended it a couple of years later which we have chalked up to simply "changing". However - many people marry young and who is to say that you cannot change together? Congrats.

steph&zach · August 2010

ill be barely 20 when me and my fiance say i do... hes alot older than me... if you are willing to say yes then your never to young!

ks3pink · August 2010

I am 22 now but was 19 when we got engaged. We have waited for me to finish college. I just want to say make sure you get through college no matter what it means, yes even if you have to wait, you won't regret it. Congrats!!!

Tula214 · August 2010

I'm so surprised to see how many other young people are on here. I def agree that I know what's right for me. I've been in a few long term relationships, we've known each other for years, and both of us are just ready to be together forever. We've lived together for almost a year and a half, pay our own bills, and have grown together so much.

Congrats to all of the other girls, too. Looking forward to chatting with you all.

EmilyB1526 · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_19-years-old-engaged?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:683Discussion:fae15e84-3a1c-4492-96b6-2288e6303946Post:d0b8dcae-bc2c-4658-b8ce-e20ab58d2c51">Re: 19 years old, and engaged</a>:
[QUOTE]you will generally get a lot of heat on these boards for being young and engaged.
Posted by CWill16[/QUOTE]

I definitely agree with you here...

It's sad that someone who is young and engaged has to get a lot of heat on a site that was not designed for that purpose. Just because they weren't ready at 19 (or 24 or 30), doesn't mean that you aren't! Congrats to you and your FI! Btw - I'm 21.

jemmini6 · August 2010

I think a lot of the younger people that get engaged get 'heat' on here just because the 'older' people have been there and know the statistics for younger marriages (I think there are a few people here who did marry [and divorce] young, so they speak from experience, but no two marriages are alike). My only qualm is that I generally advocate waiting until you are finished with college (to actually tie the knot, not getting engaged), but in the end, age really is just a number. My parents got married at 20 and 22 and have been married for 31 years so obviously it can work (neither went to college though). I think as long as you feel you can handle it and will be 100% financially independent, go for it whenever you think is right for you. Congrats on your engagement!!

nationalvixen · August 2010

I'm 21 and fi is 26

awick14 · August 2010

Congrats!!
I was 22 when I got engaged and will by 23 when I say "I do".

anpayne1 · August 2010

I definetly don't think age matters one bit. Me and my fiance are both 20 right now and I will be 21 when we are married and he will be about a month from 21....:) My grandparents were married when they were 18 and 19 and are still together 56 years later:)

bethsmiles · August 2010

I think its naive to say age doesn't matter. Age may be just a number but there is usually a certain level of maturity and amount of life experience that comes with that number. Of course every person is different and of course some are more mature than others by a certain age and of course some couples that marry young make it but not every young couple is the exception to the rule, but obviously they aren't otherwise the divorce rate wouldn't be so high. I think its important for every couple, but especially young couples, to fully understand how challenging marriage is.

I think the key to not getting burned about your age on these boards is to respond to concerns about your age in a mature way. Don't get defensive about your age and actually listen to the advice you are given. I've never had a problem on the boards just because I'm young. It all has to do with what you say in your posts.

Elle1036 · August 2010

To be honest, I always feel really young on these boards, and I'm 25. I feel like I could be 40 and still not feel like I'm old enough to get married, because I've never really perceived myself as an adult. I know plenty of 18- and 19-year-olds who are quite possibly more mature than I am, and I also know plenty of middle-aged women who really need to grow up.

Age is much more about your mind and where you are in your life than it is about years. As long as you aren't rushing into marriage for some stupid reason, you have no reason to be self-conscious. Congrats on your engagement.

dordtgrl4 · August 2010

My fiance and I are 19 as well! We graduate college next May, have jobs already set up for us when we go back home, and we are financially ready to start our lives together. We will be married at 21. My grandmother and grandfather were married at 16 and 17, were married for 51 years, and would still be married if my grandfather didn't pass away. My sister was married at 18 and she is very happy with her decision. My fiance's grandparents were married young and have been together for over 60 years. So it all depends on who you are and what maturity level you are at.
Congratulations on your engagement!

FutureMrsHafer · August 2010

I am 19 and engaged but, I just started on here. I feel like a outcast cause I am so younge and my fiancee is in the military. My fiancee is 22 and he is the best thing that has ever happened to me. Message me if you ever wanna talk

Tula214 · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_19-years-old-engaged?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:683Discussion:fae15e84-3a1c-4492-96b6-2288e6303946Post:fcecf97f-d97d-41de-b4bd-2eedf298ec00">Re: 19 years old, and engaged</a>:
[QUOTE]I am 19 and engaged but, I just started on here. I feel like a outcast cause I am so younge and my fiancee is in the military. My fiancee is 22 and he is the best thing that has ever happened to me. Message me if you ever wanna talk
Posted by FutureMrsHafer[/QUOTE]

If you need anyone to talk to let me know! And just remember, your decision is the only one that matters.

Haylie04 · August 2010

Congrats! I'm 22 and getting married in a week and I've definitely gotten some negative responses to getting married at my age! My mom's doctor even tried to tell her she should "forbid" us from getting married! I like telling people that we're old-fashioned and if it was good enough for our parents and grandparents, it's certainly good enough for us! :P Getting married young can absolutely work out - my aunt and uncle were 19 and 20 when they got married and they're the best married couple I know! Don't listen to the nay-sayers - it's your life and you and your fiance will get to figure everything out together! CONGRATS and best wishes for a lovely engagement and marriage!

wihltsabow · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_19-years-old-engaged?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:683Discussion:fae15e84-3a1c-4492-96b6-2288e6303946Post:178c1b8b-a0e9-4c6d-8457-3fd9eaa3d834">Re: 19 years old, and engaged</a>:
[QUOTE]To be honest, I always feel really young on these boards, and I'm 25. I feel like I could be 40 and still not feel like I'm old enough to get married, because I've never really perceived myself as an adult.
Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]

That couldn't be any truer of a statement! I'm 25 and I certainly don't feel old enough to be making any lifelong decisions. Goodness, I felt that buying a car was wayyyy too grown-up for me lol :)

MissyCee · August 2010

I'm 22 and getting married next month. I get comments on my age, not necessarily here but in general and I also have heard people comment on the age difference between myself and my fiance. He is 32. What matters is your happiness and doing what's best for you. Good luck!

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