Memorial Vases and Candles

Re: Memorial Vases and Candles

• larnen

  

  May 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_memorial-vases-and-candles?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:5d73d8db-cc10-4ac2-9a46-8ea6b536d360Post:35862380-f1eb-4bcc-b136-be3d01c058d2">Memorial Vases and Candles</a>:
  [QUOTE]I want to have something to remember the lost ones of both mine and my fiance's family but he doesn't want to. What shoud I do? I want to have some way of showing that my mom and 2 grandfathers on my dad's side and my 2 uncles on my mom's side and his grandfather's and grandmother. His mom and dad along with my dad and grandma think it's a good idea. Please help!
  Posted by LK729[/QUOTE]<div>I am all for the "low key memorial" if you decide to have one.  Like this:</div><div>
  <a href="http://offbeatbride.com/2008/06/wedding-memorial" rel="nofollow">http://offbeatbride.com/2008/06/wedding-memorial</a> </div><div>
  </div><div>I would tread lightly here, just because the wedding is supposed to be a happy occasion and a big memorial in the middle can put a damper on everyone's good mood.  I lost my dad last year, and I am carrying his handkerchief with me at my wedding.  I am already going to be remembering that he isn't there, and I will be sad about it.  Making some public display of his absence is just going to make it worse, and I don't think it would be to kind to my brothers, my mom, and my dad's sister either as it might make them sad or uncomfortable.  </div><div>
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• Lisa50 member

  

  May 2012

  I think you should remember them in your heart.  If you are marrying in a Catholic Mass, you could include something such as "For those we've lost," as part of the Prayers of the Faithful.  Other than that, I don't have any other suggestions.  This is a wedding, after all, not a funeral or a memorial service.

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