FI and I live in LA and are getting married in Pittsburgh (where my family lives). We are going to PA in mid-June for our food tasting, and my mother very nicely offered to throw a shower.party for us (she is invited to, but cannot come to the shower my MOH is hosting). Because we are in town for less than 48 hours, she wanted to make sure both of us are included (therefore, not a female-only party/bridal shower). This will be a very casual afternoon BBQ at my parent's house, and will probably include primarily my family and FI's family - my MOH is throwing me an LA-based shower with a few other girls, and FI's GM are doing a bach party for him. My mom will be inviting the wedding party, but only as a courtesy. Of course, if they do make the trip it would be a bonus!
I have a few detail questions:
- Would this be considered an Engagement Party, or a Couples Shower? Is there a difference between the two?
- What is the proper etiquette for the party? For example, if it is a Couples Shower, if people bring gifts, should we open them in front of everyone? Due to the casual nature of the party, I feel that it might be awkward to sit and open gifts (if we receive) - but do not want to offend. I read an earlier post on this board that not opening gifts was seen as not proper.
- Are there any type of activities that are done at a couples shower/engagement party? I am not the biggest fan of the bridal shower games, but am down to make a TP veil if it makes my family happy. However, are there other ideas that you / other couples have done at a joint party?
Its a bit non-conventional due to the location of our families (PA and MD) in relation to us and our friends (LA and NYC) so we are already probably breaking some standard rules. However, being a newb to wedding planning, there are many etiquette rules that I am just learning - so appreciate any feedback. My family is not at all formal, so I doubt anyone that would be looking at me sideways if I did anything "wrong" but all of you are a wealth of info, so thought I would bounce it off you as well.