Hi - I really just need to reach out and talk with people about this.
My fiance - who I adore - was married very briefly - no kids - cut and dry divorce. It was a small wedding - no wedding party etc. His family is over the moon that we have found each other - everyone seems to just have forgotten he was married and they are not shy about how they did not like her and he was unhappy etc. So he wants to have a bash like no other for us - which is great - as this is my first and I am kinda a big wedding - puffy dress type of girl
So . . . I guess I should just get on board with everyone else and just get over that he was married before. But . . . I can't seem to and am always asking if this is the same as his first - or being very careful to make sure they are different. He assures me that if - by chance - there is a similarity he will speak up. That being said his dad is a minister and did perform the service - he feels like this is the more important marriage and it is (tho a repeat thing) his want for his dad to marry us. I don't know. Any thoughts - my mom and family feel like just get over it - he is the most amazing thing and treats me beyond my dreams - our life together is perfect - my sister won't even listen to me when I talk about his first marriage - she thinks I have it soo good she can't tolerate it for a second. So I don't have anyone to really express my concern to. Thoughts . . . .