Hello! First post here.. Need a bit of advice! I have been engaged for about 3 months, but we've been together almost 5 years now, and talked about marriage quite a bit. It's just finally becoming REAL with the ring & engagement. So I'm sure every bride can understand my excitement to get things rolling. Well I have found a beautiful location to have the ceremony & reception at and planning the date for next October. That's over a year away. The venue isn't extremely expensive, under $2600, that is mostly because it allows you to bring your own food & alcohol in, (which is what I was looking for in a venue). Well now that it is time for the deposit to be due by the end of this week, my fiance decides that he wants to finally voice his opinion and say that he thinks we should put it off for a while because we don't have the money "sitting in the bank" to pay for it. We are paying for the wedding ourselves which is why I have plans to save for the whole year to come as well as DIY everything possible and pick up things here and there through out the next year so that when the time comes we don't have a huge debt or stress of trying to buy everything last minute. I guess what he doesn't understand is that it IS POSSIBLE to plan a wedding a year out and save the money to pay for it when the time comes. He is a great guy and I can't see myself with anyone else.. but I am stuck right now on what to do! I don't like the idea of planning this wedding with the feeling of him not being on board! I am hoping that he will give in, but he's not the easiest person to talk to when it comes to changing his mind about something! I just wish he could see it how I do.. He says he wants nothing more than to marry me, but "when the time is right" or when "we have the money" well, I don't think we'll ever have all the money we will need just SITTING in the bank, it's about saving and having the best wedding we can on the money that we have!
Am I being selfish here? Should I wait until he's on board with it? I feel like that may never happen...and we will have just a long engagement of wasted years & no marriage..
help!