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kelmal · May 2011

I need advice:

One of my bridesmaids just informed me that she wants to bring her boyfriend to my Girls Only favor assembly/game night. My fiance is even leaving for the day/night so we can enjoy so giggly girl time. How do I handle this? Aside from the fact I think it's odd that he cannot be away from her, I simply do not want him here for my girly day with my bridal party.

Help?

crash2729 · May 2011

Remind her that it's only going to be girls there, and your FI is not staying. But if she still wants to bring him that's fine, you'd just hate for him to be uncomfortable. Chances are once he realizes he's going to be the only male there he probably won't want to come.

sherrbearr22 · May 2011

I don't get why girls always do this. Don't people understand that a little time away from each other is healthy. I'm sorry, OP, that is annoying. I'd just be honest with her and tell her it's girls only but if she gets all huffy about it, I wouldn't fight it. He's going to feel silly being the only guy there, though. Maybe the 2 of them will remember that the next time you invite HER to something.

zitiqueen · May 2011

Tell her no boys allowed, period?

It's really quite simple.

Joizee · May 2011

that is just plain weird! Girls Night out......no boys!

CassieeK · May 2011

Just tell her it's a girl's night and that you'll miss her if she can't come without her boyfriend.

sklink0486 · May 2011

Yeah, I would tell her it's a girls' night. Just tell her even your FI is leaving for the night.

JanoBean75 · May 2011

I agree with Ziti. You don't bring boys into girls' night. Just tell her it's girls' only.

niecie_jeff · May 2011

Ugh, I have never understood why girls do this! I would just tell her "Sorry, girls only" and hope she understands. And you could always say something about FI not being there.

kelmal · May 2011

So I told her that I would rather he didn't come and that it's just a chance for the girls to get together...she didn't respond so I guess we'll see?

I'm bothered by the fact that she told me "he doesn't like to be away from me" as her reasoning for needing to bring him...that doesn't sound healthy to me. I'm concerned for her as a part of this relationship.

stacie+luciano · May 2011

If she comes over with her boyfriend, don't let them in. Tell her its rude to ignore your request of girls only.

tesskerr · May 2011

Or if you are too uncomfortable telling her she can't bring him, get your FI to stay, and they can have a couple of beers together, and even help you do the favours? When I was a BM, we had girls round the dining table with a couple of glasses of wine, and the boys were in the living room, watching rugby and having a couple of beers. Ok, so they didn't help us haha, but it still felt like a girls night!

cmp1986 · May 2011

I agree with all the girls, just tell her how it is. Sorry but no boys allowed!! "Your BF will be very lonely being the only guy there, even FI is leaving."

klm03013 · May 2011

When I want time alone with one of my girlfriends, the guys usually hang out and do something together. Not sure if this would work- does your FI know this guy? If they are friends, you could always ask FI to have him along for whatever he's doing.

lindseyann410 · May 2011

Her boyfriend sounds very possessive, controlling, and insecure if he insists on going to an all girl party with her.

Not good. Hopefully she realizes this is weird and listens to your request and leaves him behind.

EmilyW416 · May 2011

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Weird, Id let her now how you want girls time and want to just see her and the rest of your girls.

Also let her know your concerns about him not wanting her to be w/o him.

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