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Keep Quiet or Speak up?

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So at my shower a month ago one of the ladies wrote me a check as a gift.  Great! She's an older woman from our church back home.

 Except..... the check bounced! I don't think she planned to give a gift and wrote one while she was there because it wasn't in a card, she just handed it to one of my BMs. 

My dilemma: Do I tell her or just send the thank you card along and keep my mouth shut?
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    20pearls1620pearls16 member
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    Send her a thank you card with the bounced check in it. LOL
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    MissusD1116MissusD1116 member
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    I soooo agree with B, send her the bounced check back!
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    M1ssJM1ssJ member
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    LMAO!!! I can't with yall!!!! I need some real advice and you  want me to shame the old church lady, I'm not putting on those gasoline draws!
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    MrsHoward2BeMrsHoward2Be member
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    I agree with the other ladies send a thank you with the check. What else can you really do???
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    20pearls1620pearls16 member
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    WTH that was real advice. Did your bank charge you for her check? How are you shaming her. It will be between you and her. It's not like during the church announcements you get up to the podium and announce " Ms. old lady in pew 3, your check bounced." LMAO.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_keep-quiet-or-speak-up?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:400Discussion:034d8b05-684f-4673-b2a0-34061b6b3faaPost:037b1fc0-6d98-40c3-bc3f-d8494075fbe6">Re: Keep Quiet or Speak up?</a>:
    [QUOTE]WTH that was real advice. Did your bank charge you for her check? How are you shaming her. It will be between you and her. It's not like during the church announcements you get up to the podium and announce " Ms. old lady in pew 3, your check bounced." LMAO.
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    pearls...stop it..Im lol !!!<div>
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    LMAO!!! They did charge me 15 bucks for her 25 dollar returned check. I don't even have the actual check anymore Undecided
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    lmao I cant!
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    tcjamestcjames
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    LMAO..I don't even need to say a word , but I totally agree all the PP's..lol
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    I swear I was holding my tongue.  I swear it.  Now:  did she just say $25????   girl give miss ruth back her piece of paper and tell her there's no need to reissue, it's the thought that counts.  no judgment but if you bounce a $25 check, you need that more than i do. 
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    CreoleBride30CreoleBride30 member
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    Rotflmbo!!! This is why I love this board...y'all keep it real! Ms. Church Lady is very aware her check bounced I'm pretty sure of it. So, no need to remind her, but you could send her a bill for the 15.00 service charge Along with your Thank you note. LOL No seriously, just move along. She already knows about the bounced check.
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    mejai1mejai1
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    I think I would just let it go. Like Sultry said, if she bounced a $25 check, she needs the $$. I'm not saying it's right, but sometimes you have to let that small stuff just go. 

    Bless her heart for trying to participate, but next time, she needs to just give you a butterscotch.  


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    furturekingsburyfurturekingsbury
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    On the real, tell her in a nice way. So she can give ya'll cash next time...(I'm rude) LOL
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_keep-quiet-or-speak-up?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:034d8b05-684f-4673-b2a0-34061b6b3faaPost:6cbac664-6874-40c9-a349-00e38228b5e6">Re: Keep Quiet or Speak up?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Send her a thank you card with the bounced check in it. LOL
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    Yes indeed!!!  Shoo.  LOL!



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    keysmitkeysmit
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    LOL.. These posts cracked me up.. Ok. I probably wouldnt say anything.. Poor little lady... She had good intentions.. It will probably make her feel embarrassed and make the atmosphere awkard for ya'll. You know. She knows her little check bounced.. Bless her little heart..
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    staten2012staten2012
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    I would not send her a "thank you for attending" my bridal shower card and leave it at that.

    chances are..she knows the check was returned. i'm sure she's embarrassed and will make it up to you when she gets the "thank you for attending" card.

    that's a touchy subject..ouch! :/

    sorry it happened....
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    I work at a bank these people be knowing they foul for writing checks that can't be cashed. They be like Tanessha did check 434 go through I be like no n they be like good cuz I don't have it right now. SMH

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    MrsBoss2012MrsBoss2012
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    Ya'll have me cracking up!!!!! That is so messed up that you were charged a fee :(

    I say go with the "thank you for attending" and if balances her book she KNOWS it bounced or she will notice you didn't cash it if it happened to be some type of mix up. In my Kevin Hart voice "See...how my bank account is set up, I got a checking and a savings...." LMAO
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    happe2getherhappe2gether member
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    meja you must be from the south cuz nobody says that without meaning in another way. I'm in the minority. I say let it slide. Pp are right. She might need it more than you. Bless her heart. LOL
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    In Response >[QUOTE]In my Kevin Hart voice "See...how my bank account is set up, I got a checking and a savings...." LMAO
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    This right here!!!!!! *dead*.....clear!....beep, beep......*dead*

    BOSS!!!! I cannot with you AT ALL!!!! LMAO!!!!!
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    lmao!!! Ok I wrote the card and it said:

    Sis. Old Lady,

    Thank you so much for attending my shower! You've always been a shining example of how a Christian woman should be and I appreciate you  always supporting my endeavors. I look forward to sharing my wedding day with you.

    J
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_keep-quiet-or-speak-up?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:034d8b05-684f-4673-b2a0-34061b6b3faaPost:1a9659c7-a3c6-4af0-a242-1c09757b22a8">Re: Keep Quiet or Speak up?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response /> This right here!!!!!! *dead*.....clear!....beep, beep......*dead* BOSS!!!! I cannot with you AT ALL!!!! LMAO!!!!!
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    I'm just saying! She didn't have a chance to transfer her money before J cashed that check! "It takes 3 days..." Ok I'm done! I'm done!! LOL
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