Ok I have a couple of problems so I'll try not to ramble.
First, my FH and I are on a very tight budget and we can only physically fit 120 people at our reception. He is from a huge family. When I mentioned that the brother of my Matron of Honor might not be invited I was made to feel like I was being horrible and would be hurting his family's feelings. Yes I have known him a long time but we ARE NOT friends. He belittles me and tries to make people feel stupid. Both of his parents (whom I love) are invited. He is a 30something that still lives at home and does absolutely nothing. Our mutual friends are hosting our reception and it seems like they think that because they're hosting he should be invited. So I have to cut out one of our family members to fit him in. Mind you, my MOH got married and my parents weren't even invited let alone my brothers who she's know just as long as I've known hers. Not sure what to do here.
Second, the same MOH is pregnant and due a few months before the wedding. I mentioned that we want a kids free reception and she replied, "Well, I'll give you the ceremony but I'm not promising anything for the reception" I work with infants and children. I LOVE babies! But on our wedding day we want to be child free. From my point of view, whether she agrees with our decision or not she should respect our wishes. This is a person who has basically bulldozed me all our lives (I've known her since we were 5) and if it weren't for the great relationship I have with her mom and extended "family" (who are the reception hosts) then I probably would never even speak to her. I couldn't see any wayout of having her in the wedding because of the history but I think I should have the final say on OUR wedding details. She already had hers and I did not go against anything she said or did even when I thought she was being rude or disrespectful. My other BMs and Maid of Honor are getting just as frustrated with her attitude and are bound to say something sooner or later. Losing her as a friend wouldn't bother me but losing her mom and everyone else would be awful. What do I do? Just let her have her way as usual or finally stand up to her?