So FI got a voicemail last night from one of his brothers. They won't be able to attend because they "forgot" that one of the family members was having surgery last week for an on-going problem. This is a family of 4 and the one having surgery is FI's cousin and is over 20. The cousin told us last week that he was having surgery and that he would probably still be at the wedding but even if he wasn't the rest of the family would still be going.
Come to find out that they won't be attending. After I have confirmed all food and everything and paid for it. (These are also the biggest eaters so we had a bunch of extra food for them.) And the reason the family has to sit and stare at him? Because they won't let him be accountable for his own care. The mom checks his wound, checks what meds the nurses give to him, and overall makes it so he never has to say anything.
Sigh. We're out at least $1000 that we can't get back. Not to mention all of the DIY stuff I did for each table. If we would have known that half of the people we invited wouldn't come (all family by the way) we would have just had a JOP courthouse affair and taken all the money we saved and went to Australia.
Guest count as of today? 27. We rented a ballroom for 27 people. And a DJ. Really?
ETA: I don't mean to sound callous to the fact that he had surgery. But this is a problem that he has been fighting for 2 years. And I work in the medical field. You can't tell me that he had surgery Jan 2nd and it wasn't planned well before Christmas.