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Flower Girl?

leighcdleighcd
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FI has a 4 year-old niece.

Is there an unspoken rule that young, immediate family members should play a role in the wedding?

We have zero wedding party - no BM or GM. It's just not our style. 

I get the feeling from FI's family they feel somehow slighted this little girl doesn't have a role in our wedding.

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Re: Flower Girl?

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    Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    You do not have to have anyone in the wedding if you don't want to.  If you do not want a wedding party or a flower girl then don't have one.  If these people honestly feel slighted that their child isn't in the wedding they will need to get over it.

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    aerinpegadrakaerinpegadrak member
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    Take the road of least drama.  If you don't have her as the FG, is it going to start WWIII with his family?  Would you expect her to be an unholy terror at the ceremony?  Would anyone else start grumping that you should be having other attendants if you do have a FG?  How does your FI honestly feel about the situation?  Would he want her there even without the family's reaction?

    Only you know the answers to these questions.  Talk to your FI, weigh all the scenarios, and go with the one that's the smallest headache.  I will echo Stage that you're not likely to get much pushback if you just say that you're not having any attendants of any size, because then it's nothing personal.
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