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engagement/housewarming party

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We got engaged in June & bought a house in August. We're finally settled in and are planning on having a house warming/engagement party in December. People keep asking about gifts. I wasnt expecting that, so should we start a small registry? And if so do I mention it somehow on the invitations?

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  • Winnertag1Winnertag1 member
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    edited November 2012
    I wouldnt call it a housewarming/engagement party. Etiquette wise, you arent supposed to throw your own engagement party. I am not sure about house warming. I would just invite people over as a get together to see your new place.

    You can put up a wedding registry at any point, some people do like to give engagement gifts to newly engaged couples. I wouldnt tell people about it unless they ask. If you are sending out invites or anything for your party, I wouldnt make mention of your registry on there, there shouldnt be mentions of gifts or registries on any type of invite. 

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  • freebread03freebread03 member
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    Definitely do not throw your own engagement party since it goes against etiquette to do so.  When FI and I bought our place last year, we had our friends over to see it after we finally finished painting and basically said "come see our new place!"  We didn't make it a formal event, and only one person brought something.  The rest brought wine to share (as is customary in our crowd when someone throws a party).  It's fine to register I guess, but if it were me, I'd probably just say "oh the wedding is so far off, we haven't even thought about registering yet."  I usually think that champagne or wine is a more appropriate gift for an engagement OR housewarming.
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  • Summer2011BrideSummer2011Bride member
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    We had a housewarming party last month after we bought our first house. We provided all the food and whenever people asked what to bring, we told them nothing. If they asked what we wanted as a gift, we said we didn't want gifts. Many still brought wine, but I definitely didn't want it to be a gift-giving event, just something casual where we ate, drank,, played games and they could see our house.

    So I think a housewarming/see our place party is fine to throw yourselves. However, I wouldn't call it an engagement party and if you decide to register, make it a wedding registry. Don't mention the registry at all. In fact, I'd feel weird telling people "We're registered at XYZ" if they asked about gifts for a housewarming party, but that's just me.


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  • RusticBride13RusticBride13 member
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    My fiance's family keeps asking his sister when we are having an engagement party but no one has offered to throw us one. I'm tryingto follow etiquette but its hard to when no ones following along.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_engagementhousewarming-party-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:683Discussion:0f1dbf2e-7706-4722-b7aa-b0726f32b91aPost:130767e5-c3b3-4df6-9981-5a2aefa22321">Re: engagement/housewarming party</a>:
    [QUOTE]My fiance's family keeps asking his sister when we are having an engagement party but no one has offered to throw us one. I'm tryingto follow etiquette but its hard to when no ones following along.
    Posted by RusticBride13[/QUOTE]

    I would just respond with, 'We aren't having an engagment party." If they really want you to have one, they can offer to throw it themselves.


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  • tiny specktiny speck member
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    Or to really hammer it home, respond with "We aren't havening an engagement party because nobody has offered to throw us one." Refuse to throw your own.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_engagementhousewarming-party-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:683Discussion:0f1dbf2e-7706-4722-b7aa-b0726f32b91aPost:b9001451-513b-4f63-bf49-d5b3bb0e4a1b">Re: engagement/housewarming party</a>:
    [QUOTE]Or to really hammer it home, respond with "We aren't havening an engagement party because nobody has offered to throw us one." Refuse to throw your own.
    Posted by tiny speck[/QUOTE]
    This! or add on "I don't know when our engagement party is, do you have the date set yet? We can get a guest list together if you like." If they want you to have one, they can throw you one
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