I've been debating about posting this for some time, but after today, I'm no longer holding back.
My FI was married for 32 years, his divorce isn't technically final. She moved out years ago and when we met, they were separated and living in different cities. He hadn't filed because he didn't think he would meet anyone, but 3 months after we met, he filed. She had been wanting a divorce for years before that, but it wasn't until he actually filed that things really got ugly.
His children are all grown and he has 8 amazing grandchildren. He only gets to see 5 of them now because she has done everything in her power to turn his children against him. His daughter has gotten lots of grief from her because she still sees him and lets him see her kids. I have yet to meet anyone other than his daughter because of all the drama. I still have 4 children at home.
She showed up on my front porch one day screaming obscenities at the top of her lungs and threatening my children. They were literally scared of her and are scared now every time they hear her name. She has now told his parents all the mistakes he made 20 years ago and all the things he did. They were married at 15 because she was pregnant. She, of course, doesn't share any of the things she did and blames him for all of it.
There were temporary orders he agreed to that give her $600 a month in spousal support. He's a commercial real estate broker and the economy sucks so he hasn't closed a deal since last July. She has all the property and in fact refused to let him even keep the furniture he had in his house when he met me including his tools. He has done construction jobs in the past and those tools could have earned him income, but she refused to return them.
So, he hasn't closed a deal and she won't give him his tools and then she files a contempt motion because he hasn't paid her spousal. Kind of hard to pay spousal without any income. We've been living off of my income for months and there isn't another $600 a month in the budget.
There was a hearing today for a final hearing on the divorce and the contempt motion. He paid everything he owed her a month ago, but she still wanted him thrown in jail because he hadn't paid it on time. My ex owes over $50K in back child support and hasn't seen his kids in over 2 years and I still haven't asked to have him put in jail. It takes a very special kind of hate to want to do that to someone.
And now we come to my biggest vent. She and her DIL have been cyber-stalking me for months. It started on another board I used to post on for bargains and deals and then moved here when we started planning the wedding. She uses is against him and me and tries to act like he's doing things he shouldn't or that we're spending money that should be going to her. I have money of my own and my sister has helped a lot with wedding stuff.
She has now dragged his parents into things even more and they are livid. I felt sorry for her in the beginning because I know how hard a divorce can be no matter what the circumstances that brought you there are, but now she's crossed lines that I can't get past. Actively wanting to put him in jail after he has paid all he owes and now going after his parents and even before that scaring my kids. Divorce can make you do crazy things, but there is no excuse for this sort of behavior.
She's convinced he has a job that he isn't telling anyone about. She's convinced that we got married last summer when we took the kids to Padre (how is that even possible?? and before anyone asks, it was FI's uncle's condo so it was free and we brought groceries so all it cost us was gas to get there.) She's convinced that his parents bought the property we're living on for me. She's seriously gone off the deep end and I'm tired of being stalked and being abused.
So, for those who just read this tirade, thank you for putting up with it.
For Cathy and/or Taylor, cyber-stalking is a crime punishable by law. Leave me alone and move on.
