We sent our save-the-dates to our friends and family this past month and they seem to be causing confusion. We sent them to the person we knew - in other words, not to everyone in the family by name, and not to anyone along with their boyfriend/fiance's names. We intended to invite everyone by name three months from now on the formal invitations. It was a basic "save the date" card with our wedding website information, notes about lodging (it is a destination wedding for half some of the guests as we live in England now, but the wedding is in California where I am from), and it had a magnet with our picture on it.
We've gotten several congratulations-but-I-can't-come notes in the mail, which I was surprised by, since these aren't formal invitations, and there was no RSVP mention or insert. I've also been contacted by several friends/family members asking if their significant other/kids are invited.
I'm a little baffled because these weren't the invitations, and they weren't meant to be. Has anyone else had this happen? I'm considering an email to explain that we are intending on having plus-ones for everyone, but I'm afraid that will just make things worse. Shall I wait for the formal invitations to go out in September and then it will all be clear? Thought? Thanks so much.