Lets start with my Mom and I have a great relationship and normally get along wonderfully. I love her dearly... but since getting engaged we have been in an ongoing (somewhat passive aggressive) battle about where I should get married. I currently live near Minneapolis, but grew up close to Milwaukee. It's a good 5 hour drive.
She wants me to get married in Wisconsin. Getting married in Minnesota would be so much easier for planning. She tells me if I get married in Minnesota, hardly any of my relatives and our sides family friends would come because they are older, and it's too far too drive. (100 of our 275 would be coming from that area). I have tried to find places inbetween and have found a few but they are in a tourist area and no less expensive than getting married in a big city. Every time I bring up getting married in Minnesota she makes a comment like that's too far away, or yesterday when I looked at a venue up here, her e-mail response was how about you get married in La Crosse (which is out of the way for everyone.)
This whole thing is making me really sad and stressed out... I really want to have her input and respect some of her wishes...but the whole thing is making me not even want to have a big wedding (which she seems to want.)
How do I make her see my side with out making her mad or hurting her feelings?