let me star by saying that i love my future mother in law and her mother. but i have noticed that when we were dating they were so nice. they went out of the way to make me feel comfortable. when we told them we got engaged the sh$t hit the fan. i have never done or said any thing rude to them. and know they absolutely hate me. his mother is nice when the grandmothers not around but when you put them together i dread going to his house. they don't do it as much around my FI b/c he doesn't let them talk to me in this way, so now they do it behind his back. last night we had family dinner and my fi went to the bathroom and his grandmother jumped on me that my shirt was the wrong color for spring. wtf i don't care about the color it was comfortable and didn't show much skin. so when he got back she just acted like nothing happened went on talking about how we should move up the wedding.
she hates the idea of us moving into together before we are married and since we close on 7/7 and the weddings not till 3/12/2011 she thinks we are sinner. no offense to anyone who believes this i mean no harm. and i understand be people have the right to there op but she takes it way to far.
his father left when he was 5 due to his grandmother he hates her and has no problem telling her. i don't want to be rude but they are driving me insane. here's what i have tried.
1. i just stopped going over there but my FI asked me to com e back a few times here and there.
2. i don't talk when im around them only when they ask a question.
3. i talked to his mother she just said sweetie what my mother says goes what the hell your 45 years old lady time to grow up.
4. i walk out when she is rude. literally when she stars acting like this i just get up and walk out side.
so if you have any advice i would greatly appreciate it. thank you and sorry its so long. but i actually made it a lot shorter i could have a lot more to vent on.