So, I have three bridesmaids and three bridesmen. My maid of honor is great, and the bridesmen will just show up and wear tuxes. I pretty much expect the same of the bridesmaids (but dresses, not tuxes), plus a little pre-wedding partying (which I will probably spring for, since I know how finances are.)
Here's my dilemma. One of my bridesmaids has been my friend since 8th grade. Unfortunately, due to some things in her past, she has some pretty serious emotional and psychological issues. She has been pretty much negative about our wedding from the start because she is jealous that I'm getting married (which she freely admits), so I haven't been talking to her about the wedding much. I know she's excited about being a bridesmaid for the first time, and I'm certainly glad for that.
The problem is, not only am I facing the usual "jealous friend" behavior of backing out of (totally nonwedding related) plans at the last minute and being negative about the wedding, but I don't seem to be able to do anything to help her. She randomly texts me about how she should kill herself because it seems like "everyone" is getting married or knocked up. (I'm not sure that getting "knocked up" is something to be jealous of..... but oh well.) And then starts telling me how it's because she has to hear about weddings and she can't wait any longer and so she should just kill herself.
This is an ongoing issue. Looking at articles from different sites, I've already done the things they suggest... I've tried not talking to her about the wedding. I've tried taking her out, spending extra time focusing on her, even talking to her more about her problems and worries (which are just about all we talk about since she's constantly texting things like the above). I've tried creating opportunities for her to get to know some of my single guysfriends too (in an attempt to help with the "I'm alone and miserable" issue) but she's not interested since they're not the "bad boy" type... I just don't know what to do about it. Or for her. She's such an important part of my life, and I don't want her to be hurt by this, but "my friend is jealous so won't get married" is not a reasonable solution, nor would it help her in the long run... She won't go back to the doctor and get help for her psychological problems and suicidal and self destructive tendencies...
I guess I'm wondering if there's anything else I can do to try to take care of her, or make her feel more comfortable...