The one and only thing that my FI has requested of our wedding is that his father, who is a pastor, be the one to marry us. I respect that, am excited to ask him, and know that my FFIL will help ease my nerves on the big day (I
so don't do the center of attention thing!)
But what about pre-marital counseling? I don't know every question he would normally ask of any other couple, but I am anxious about the concept of doing that with my FFIL. I am certainly not comfortable talking about sex with him. I can only imagine that pre-marital counseling includes some discussion about the couples' families of origin, and I don't want FI to feel in the hotseat or to make my family's dirty laundry common knowledge to my FFIL.
FI understands my concerns, but not enough to think of alternatives yet. Since we just got engaged (one week ago!), we have not yet formally asked FFIL to be our officiant -- I can really only presume what he will expect from us.
Sorry this is really long and rant-y... I guess I just need someone to tell me if I'm crazy!